Posted by: Cassius2
On: September 1st, 2010 01:44 PM

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Meow: yep seeing an IM, was seeing the first ob cos had lot of bleeding eaarly on, but at what was going to be my last appt she told me I had to go and get a 2nd opinion about my decision to homebirth. Now i'm just thinking it will be a second lecture, so don't want to go but the last ob was making out that I HAD to go. And thats what I was wondering, do I HAVE to go?
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short answer: no! from what i can gather you have planned a homebirth and have a competent and supportive IM that knows her stuff. they can deal with so much and are able to recognise all sorts of things from perfect pgs to complicated ones and can guide and support you just as much (but i totally believe a WHOLE lot more) than 'traditional' obstetric models of care. AND if the need arises at any point that the pg or labour or post partum period requires high risk care, then between you and your IM you can make the call to see someone at the hospital (for example, if i go beyond 42 weeks, i then have opted to see the fetal monitoring unit at the RWH for placental checks etc). big hugs babe listen to your instincts and if these people make you feel that way then they are so not the ones to be looking after you and bubba xx IMHO ya just gotta be ruthless and ditch ANYONE that doesnt feel right...but of course, this is just my two cents

Meow: yeah i reckon the nesting for a homebirther is sooo much more intense lol! cause you're right, you want alllll spaces to be at a certain standard of calm and cleanliness...pretty darn hard with a toddler, dog and two cats lol!

Rory: oh wow! you're already 35 weeks wow! that's a bummer about your IM being away so close to the EDD. that she will still be able to be there come what may with timing.

AFM: just had my 39 week appt! oohhh aahhh! never had one of those before lol! so weird being this pg! bubbity boo has moved back up (she was 2/5 engaged last visit). but my midwife reckons that is totally normal and told me that the night i had last week of 3 hours of contractions showed that she knows how to engage and can do so quickly, so not to be too obsessed basically lol! baby is also tending towards posterior position...noooooooooooo!!! so will have to do a bit more all four floor scrubbing action. ah well, surely there are more skirting boards to scrub
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Posted by: marcellus
On: September 1st, 2010 02:22 PM

Em, I absolutely agree with the others - call and cancel. At the very least, if you are going to go later then taking some time to get yourself ready and organising some moral support is really important (like your midwife for eg).
You don't actually need that OB's permission. Do you trust your midwife? Do you feel comfortable with her? Does she make you feel safe and secure? If so, then seek her advice first. (and ask yourself if you trust the OB and feel safe and secure with them.... I'm guessing not and that really is important - for you and your baby).

How many more posts before your baby arrives I wonder Cassius... can't be too many now
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Posted by: *Infinity*
On: September 1st, 2010 09:15 PM

Cassius honey.....be aware that I am starting to stalk you. I am getting very excited about you birthing your bubba at home. Good luck hun as you prepare to welcome your little one in your sanctuary.
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Vent

Posted by: Tegam
On: September 6th, 2010 07:12 PM

So went to the local public hospital today for the normal booking in appointment with the Dr!

Got the normal lecture on the dangers of HB quote " cant believe you would want to take that risk!"

then later when we were talking about IF baby came quick and i was at home...

quote "well you just need to remember that it would all be ok, birth is natural and you have done it 3 times before, youd be fine"

so whick one is it lady! Risky if i PLAN To be safe and PREPARED at home but if im not prepare then everything will be fine???

IDIOT!
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Posted by: marcellus
On: September 6th, 2010 08:05 PM

That's too funny Tegam!
I am wondering how my apt will go - it's the week after next. My middies regularly use this hospital as their backup, so i guess it'll be straight forward. I sincerely hope it's the only time I have to go there.

Still with us Cassius...?
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Posted by: Roryrory
On: September 6th, 2010 10:13 PM

Tegam that is a crack up LOL! Fingers crossed for you marcellus

And yeah, Cassius, how are you ??

crapola - just realised I am a month from my "due" date !!
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Newbie

Posted by: Spicemum
On: September 8th, 2010 10:46 AM

Wow
I've read this thread from the beginning and kind of reached a crishendo towards the end. How exciting.

Cassius - Big Congrats

Cassius and Meow - How funny on the food thing with Helen. I'm catching up with hear early AM in October. She's my 2nd IM. What does she like for brekky?

Tegam - Loved your quote. Can i share with Mum - might help warm her to the idea a bit?
Em - Sometimes it's obvious when obs are being ignorant. My first this time tried to get DH to take his side. 2nd told me my pelvis is small based on baby sitting high at 16 weeks (I've previously birthed a 4.3kg). Third was an IM.
As I've read I've wanted to join past conversations LOL

Planning HBAC December - due 25th .
Have to leave it here because DS9 is nagging me to play Wii with him.
Looking forward to hearing and sharing more with you all.
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which PHI approves HB?

Posted by: airyfairy
On: September 8th, 2010 12:15 PM

Just wondering which PHI has approved HB, and how long you need to be a member?
very early days with #2 and would LOVE a HB...looking for info to persuade hubby
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