Homebirth General Discussion #20

[Tegam]

Exactly as Jen says. It's a ride and only the baby knows the length. (Enjoy) every part as a special bond with your baby. Use your spa time not to focus on 'is it or isn't it' but about this little one and how it's about to change your family in such a positive way. Loving your daughters and your husband all that bit more as you watch them love this new baby xx

[Bella29]

Thanks girls, will keep your wisdom in mind. I don't think it is happening tonight. Just a bit of notice that my body is more ready than it was yesterday. Just about to pop into the spa now

[Ladylove]

Sneaking in... Bella I wait with baited breath!

[Bella29]

Thanks ladylove . Not yet. But you girls will know first. This feels like the place I can share most openly, even knowing that this isn't completely private I don't want to have him tomorrow, cos dh is oncall and my photographer is away. But after that I am all go! Have been thinking Friday maybe? We will see. I have a gf who is 43+ weeks atm, so it is a reminder to me, that that may happen to me too, but I doubt it.

[Tegam]

43+ that is 7 weeks longer than I was pregnant with DD2. Hard to imagine.

[Cassius2]

Bella I hope the night was gentle and restful for you....or that you've had a baby

If bubs is still in utero I am sending you many birth blessings.

[Lady-bug]

Sending lots of love and positive birthy vibes your way Bella. Look forward to hearing your news!

[Ozstar]

How are you feeling Bella? Hopefully if your not already holding your little man you will be soon.

[Bella29]

I'm good thanks girls. I am def not having baby today, as dh is oncall tonight and therefore away from home. He could get back, but not without inconvenience. And my videographer is down in Melbourne till tomorrow afternoon. Funnily enough my BH have dropped right off. I have willed them away! I don't want this baby born today or tomorrow. Friday would be nice thank you very much thanks for all the positive wishes girls. I will update in here first, or santosha, who is my PIG will do it for me .

[Santosha]

I will update in here first, or santosha, who is my PIG will do it for me .

She certainly will... 'cause she's stalking you! xoxoxoxoxo

[meow]

Thinking of you Bella. You sound in a good place and I'm sure this birth will be wonderful.

Did you labour for your DD1s birth? I'm just wondering if DD2s labour was harder and longer due to being your first labour? I hope this one is an easier length for you xx

Edited to remove a whole part of my post that was edited by mods and I think made it easier to take out of context.

[Bella29]

I had 36 hrs of labour with my first before the c/s, so yeah, I dunno.

Tegam, I can't even reply to your fb message because your privacy settings are so sky high! You might need to fb friend me. I try to go to your profile, and it won't let me see, says "content not available". And I tried to respond to your message and it says "you arnt allowed to chat with this person". Sort it out woman!

[Cassius2]

Oh meow i had that too at times with my BB group. I guess as well it is because HB is still not a common choice IYKWIM and so in groups where the vast majority are not HB your journey can get lost in the melee. i had to work hard to find a balance between sharing my happy HB planning stuff and protecting myself from all the hospital speak (as well because of the PTSD and triggers). I guess the best way i found was to support their journey, offer your support and be ok with asking questions. i found that it was cool in that they also got confident enough to ask questions back IYKWIM. i think that for many, when they hear that you are planning a HB they dont really know what that entails. so many in my MG IRL thought you literally didnt plan anything or prepare anything at all...that i would simply call the midwife and pop a baby out on the floor. once they started to realise (through conversation) the level of detail and care taken they got really interested. for example, many dont realise that midwives attend as a norm as part of a team, have sutures, synto, shots, oxygen on them etc. this kind of stuff fascinates those that feel a bit scared about having a baby at home for only the JIC scenario...it opens up the possibility that HB is a valid option with options lol.

Bella: the power of the mind works! DD3 tried to make her entrance 6 weeks early and I was in mega labour land but told her in no more simple words that if she was born now she would have to be born in hospital to an OB that didnt know that you could give birth without the need for internals hahahaha (the OB on duty was fresh of the press and peachy keen with the rubber gloves - he was flummoxed by my repeated 'no' to his offer of internals) and labour stopped a few hours later

[Tegam]

Sorry bella! I have my account deactivated most of the time this week, just as the news settles and DH work can't know until after next week. Facebook is too easy at spreading the word. I totally forgot as I messages you!!

Hugs meow. There is no real reason for a bb group when we all have each other. There are three Homebirth mummas in mine join ours and go to 42 weeks

[Bella29]

Lol, that's ok tegam! I was kinda impressed that you could get them that tight!

And great work Cassius! The mind is amazing isn't it! Yeah I wasn't stressed last night, I just knew I wasn't gonna do it. I think my photographer was slightly stressed tho! Lol! We will see what the next week holds. Despite a crap amount of pain, I feel happy ATM. Which makes me wonder if I am even close. It has been my experience that you need to be "over it" to go into labour . Anyway, will see.

My birth space is all sorted now. Looks very pretty and clean and calm right now. Last time I didn't put up flags or affirmations at all, so this is something new and nice.

I also did a belly cast with my sister today. That was nice. I love her and whilst she spent years as an experienced doula I am not having her at my birth. I know it is what I need to not have her there, to many sister dynamics going on, but it was nice to do something pregnancy related with her .

[Tegam]

This is my 5th pregnancy bella, NOTHING feels that tight lol

[Bella29]

Bahahahaha! Oh tegam!

[Jennifer13]

Sounds like you're in a good head space and you have everything ready, Bella. Now just to enjoy the small amount of time you have left with your belly boy. They're a lot easier to manage on the inside!

Still sending beautiful birthing vibes.

Tegam - I've noticed I'm not as tight after three. Can only imagine two more stretching my poor muscles into oblivion.