Homebirth General Discussion #21

[Jennifer13]

And on a positive note - my sister ditched her ob for an IM that has practising rights at GC hospital. She's going to get a VBAC with the model of care she's chosen and I'm so pleased for her. I hadn't said much but I was worried when she went back to the ob at first.

She tells me that when the ob confirmed the CFM policy (among other things) she said her sister had two HBACs just fine without that. Ob didn't have much of a response apparently, beyond something about keeping her and the baby safe (and my sister knows CFM doesn't have any benefit on that front). So even though she didn't make it to DD3's birth, at least she's educated herself and my births have probably helped demonstrate the way normal birth happens.

[Sterla]

I have been on a bit of a high ever since she was born! I am still trying to wrap my head around her birth (almost finished the birth story - trying to get it down while fresh in my mind), feeding is going well apart from a graze or two. Milk is just starting to come in.
DS is absolutely smitten - he wants to hold her and pat her all the time. DD likes her but is a bit unsure too.

We had a rough first night with Eloise coughing up lots of mucous and crying a lot, but she has been wonderfully settled ever since. I don't know if it is the home birth or being my third baby, but I really feel like I am enjoying her more than I did with my other two as newborns. I just can't get enough of smelling her head and touching her cheeks. Love!

Will post a link to my birth story when I finish - hopefully tonight.

[Jennifer13]

Mmmmmm the smell of newborn baby head...

[Sterla]

Welcoming Eloise Charlotte - 30/7/14

Here is my birth story! I am so tired - so I hope there aren't too many typos and it all makes sense!

[HotI]

Mmmmmm the smell of newborn baby head...

i love that smell! my bubba is starting to lose it.

[Tegam]

Wow what a beautifully written birth story! Amazing and lovely.

[Dot Face]

Your story was lovely Sterla, thanks for sharing .
Am I the only one whose baby didn't have that special smell? I seriously never smelt it... I know what it smells like because I can still remember my baby brother's newborn smell which I loveddd but I never smelt it off my son.
I did smell A smell from him occasionally, but it was from the gunk that gets stuck in his neck lines so the smell would go after washing him.
He has lovely milk breath though which I bask in .

[Tegam]

bahhahahaha Dot face no I'm sure you aren't the only one. There have been studies that prove that a new mother can smell her baby out when blind folded, even when they thought they couldn't smell anything. Its an instinct thing. Maybe you have been that relaxed and content when your baby has been new that you haven't had to identify those feelings.

AFM: have started the mammoth job of washing and sorting. The weather is warm enough but there are passing showers so not the best timing to get some washing done but I'm in the mood! and thats Ladybugs fault, i saw that she was 36 weeks and yikes I'm really not that far behind her, better get something done. There was a lady at work that was as pregnant as me the other night and she had a CS date. AS much as i would NEVER want a CS EVER, the thought of an end date was very romantic at that stage of my shift! Am going to try to do my best to not wish this stage away and keep calm about the arrival date. When its ready it will be ready to join us. STILL no NAME none, nothing, NOT A THING. Suggestions please??? I like Archie and Elsie but DH HATES THEM and i have NOTHING else

[Dot Face]

Lol...thanks Tegam.

If it helps you feel better I had picked two names I was dead set on (one for if if it was a boy, one for if it was a girl) and well it ended up being a boy but after heaps of people from both my and dh's family whined about the name I'd picked dh said he wanted a different name! Argh!! But while it was back to the drawing board, it only took us about a day to settle on his name (and I really think his name suits him). Sometimes you just need to see baby to decide "yep, he/she is a BLAH".

[Eenee]

Congrats Sterla!!!! A bit slow I am, hope you and Bub are going wonderfully.

Tegam: ya never know this Bub might surprise you and come out short and fat haha.

[kellbell]

Boo hoo my placenta is 0.5cm from cervix at 33 weeks , so upset its even closer Than at 20 weeks
Feeling lost now I wanted this home birth so bad
Bubs is transverse as well just to complicate things

[Tegam]

Hello Kellbell, i see you are on that home birth Facebook group! I saw your post this afternoon! baby being transverse meaning nothing at 34 weeks. Not sure about placenta, what does your MW say?

[kellbell]

She's not happy :-(

[Tegam]

So she's not happy but what's her plans? Thoughts?

[kellbell]

Just waiting for a meeting she's had 4 babies in 2 days delivered
So she couldn't talk long to me .
She sounded more negative than the OB to be honest !

[kellbell]

She knows how much I want this homebirth and how hard I've had to fight so far so I'm sure shell give me every chance .
I saw a pic on her page of one of her deliveries yesterday and it made me quite sad that my placenta might stop me having my homebirth
I don't quite know how to deal with it all or wrap my head around a c-section yet :-/

[Tegam]

How are you feeling this afternoon kellbell. Have you talked to your MW?

[kellbell]

Yes we had a big talk she wants 2cm and baby head down to even attempt a home birth
I am terrified of being cut open/medical procedures/needles - ill take a hospital birth if I can just birth bubs vaginally
It's so up in the air !
I had post natal depression with my son and was a dark 6 months I never want to go back into that kind of headspace ever again. I just don't know how to deal with a c-section when I have easy births it
Just seems so wrong!
Now I'm rambling - i really appreciate all the support so much