Bella my Mw cam to my appointment at home and was all relaxed saying yay yeah all normal, nothing will be a problem, you have until 42weeks before the hospital will require monitoring! Then a few hours later I get a text saying "oh actually now I can't be certain your baby isn't breech, you have you'll have a scan" the text came out of no where but after everything I went through with dd3, my two big triggers were scans and internals. My DH called her as I was a mess and said "what's going on". He got off the phone and not an hour later she and her back up midwife are at my front door! Un invited! The back up Mw wanted to feel babies position. She had a feel and said she was 90% sure the baby was head down but she wanted a scan or to do an internal. I said no and asked that they not ask me again. I was feeling bub kick high, I was getting hickups down low and she, my Mw and my mum (a midwife) all thought the head was down! I said that I needed to know that this was agreed and they were not going to move the goal posts on me again. They promised that it was no issue and left. Next morning I get a phone call from the back up Mw, my Mw is sick so she is now my primary and she and her backup had talked and they were not happy to continue care if I didn't have the scan. I said "you are telling me that if I don't do this you are withdrawing care" she said yes, I am withdrawing care as of now until you have a scan or internal. Now of you knew dd3's story you would understand why I was so upset. And these MWs knew my history. But yelp I was left with a decision. She said it was about building a trusting relationship and I had to placate her concerns, nothing was said about me, my feelings, my trust

The language they used was just like being at an OBs appointment. So sad that our private MWs are so worried about legality that they didn't once look at the women. All for a 10% chance that the baby might be breech.

Long story short I have the stupid scan, I allowed the lovely man at a private place to stick the probe on my belly for 2secomds, we saw head and bam the probe was off, I refused to go to a hospital to have the scan.

Then I was left with the decision to call these women when I went into labour. Anyone surprise we free birthed??? All this when I was overdue!

Thank goodness my DH is so amazing and that ds2 allowed me to have a beautiful, natural, loving birth with just my husband there to catch! The kids then ran in and it was about our family not the MWs.



Freya: I think that sometimes forums and Facebook groups attract people that want/need to be heard. And yes it can become a bit of a "my story is worse" I understand that's ironic seeing I've just written a poor me post, go figure the logic of that one. But what I'm saying is take it all with a pinch of salt. Talk to your mw and yes do some research to see your options, sadly the MWs I was talking about above were from a "my midwives" practise.

Yay on the scan, glad your little one is swimming about in perfection half ish way! Time will fly!

Cass: the whole thing cost between $3000-$4000 I haven't added it up and we got some money back on Medicare. I still got charged the full amount even though she didn't get called until after bubs came! Wish I'd at least birthed in the middle of the night so I'd called her out of bed, but no it was middle of the day, such a polite time to come on over!


Meow: I love your "you can't plan the unplanned"