Homebirth General Discussion #5

[Cassius2]

If not, we birth in hospital and we say goodbye to another baby.

this might sound really strange and not well thought out, but if bubba does have the same condition, do you have to have them in hossy? i'm just thinking outta the box here because my mate who had a baby with severe breathing complications was born at home (they didnt know about his congenital issues) and the thing that stuck in my mind was that the mum said it was the best birth journey she could of given him as it was peaceful, quiet and respectful ITMS.
also...not sure (total brainstorm moment from someone with a PTSD and fear of birth wards ) if baby does have the same thing as baby L could you still bring them home? i know that it sounds weird, but maybe that could be a good way to run from the hossy and spend quiet time with your people?

just a thought...and you dont need to answer to this at all...total brainstorm

Stoked: omg, not long for you either! wow, once that 27 weeks is past it all just seems to hit fast forward for me

[Tegam]

almost 29! Lord Stoked Im well stoked for you!

Cass: You said what i didnt have time to write last night! amazing words!

Tash never a noval! Thanks for sharing and be asured we are all here for you for the long haul! I am so sorry that they cant test at 12weeks! But a baby is a baby whether it be 12 weeks or 34weeks, we love them all!

[HotI]

Cassius wrote what i was thinking. If i knew that my bubba might not have a long time with us, it would make me more encouraged to make that time the best for our family, and for me that would be at home.

My decision would be more difficult if treatments that needed hospital were possible.

Hoping that we (collectively) don't face those decisions.

[brogeybear]

Tahsy, I just want to give you the biggest hug imaginable. You are such an incredible strong woman, really! I can only begin to imagine what you have been through. I pray so much that this babe is completely healthy!

I too was thinking the same as PPs regarding staying at home. I know for us, if we knew that we were going to birth a babe who would not survive despite any medical care, it would be even more important to do so at home, where they wouldn't be taken away or poked and prodded. I hope you don't even have to think about that situation ever again though.

[LionsandBears]

I understand the idea about birthing at home, even if bub will die. In many ways that's quite an attractive option, as we can do things our own way. There's no way DH could live in a house where our child has died and I'm not sure I could either. The hospital were extremely good to us when DS died, giving us time and peace. They lack the facilities like a comfortable double bed in a private room, which is one of the things I want them to work on. Despite my anxiety about hospitals, we were treated very well. They looked after us and DS with respect. If bub is going to die, there's no reason for them to be poked and prodded. Last time, they didn't know what was wrong, so they tried to save him. But I do see the attraction of having bub at home and letting them go peacefully in my arms.

Hopefully it won't come to that. I'm going to cross that bridge if we have to. TBH, part of me just wants to stick my head in the sand and sing NAH NAH NAH until it all goes away. Meanwhile, I had a shocking day today with DH going away for work, rehashing a bunch of things relating to DS's birth and death in counselling and rising anxiety because I hadn't felt bub move in a couple of days. I came home early as I wasn't productive, stuffed myself with chocolate and had a nap. The nap helped calm me down and the chocolate seems to have given bub a rush and there's been more movement. So feeling lots better

Jen - we have the same MW we used last time. The need for continuity of care really influenced me wanting a HB this time as well. She knows our history, knows how I birth (apparently I could birth in a tree) and she has an emotional investment in us, DS and this little wiggle monster. Our care is between out MW and our GP, with unofficial backup from the OB who oversaw things at the hospital. We did some OB shopping and it was DH who felt he wasn't comfortable with them. We really dont feel comfortable with strangers. And you just can't beat appointments in your living room on a Sunday morning for convenience

[Cassius2]

And you just can't beat appointments in your living room on a Sunday morning for convenience

haha so true!

great, now i want chocolate....mmmmmmm mm mmmmmmm.

[onthefly]

I'm glad the chocolate came through for you.