Can anyone suggest ways for me to get in the right mindset for birthing? I'm feeling extremely mentally unprepared! I feel like this pregnancy has just flown and i haven't had a chance to even think about what I want for the birth yet. I have started reading positive birth stories, and Ina May, but does anyone have other suggestions?
I think I need to have a big chat (and cry perhaps!) to my midwife as there are alot of fears that I have to get over, most of which are probably normal fears (stillbirth, PPH, shoulder dystocia, prem labour.. just to name a few!).
Getting music organised is something I'd like to do soon. I'll be buying the baby a set of drawers this week so I can get all his things sorted and out of boxes. Gosh, even me saying the word 'baby' is freaking me out! I'm going to have a baby.. An actual baby.... See what I mean by unprepared!?
stoked i think this is normal for a pregnancy after loss and when you have other kids. Molly didnt seem real until the second she was born! I felt like i was making it all up before then...
on the other note...please please please lean on your MW...this is exactly what you are paying her for and why we choose to have homebirths. If id had someone to lean on with Mollys birth there is no way things would have ended up like they did!
yep, id get on the blower to your midwife. also get that birth compilation ready and then of an evening once the kids are in bed and you are comfy in your pjs find a great little comfy chair (mebbe even the one that you will feed bubba in...mebbe in the bubs room) and put on the ipod with the earphones pumping and close your eyes, embrace that belly and just let it out. i did this around the 38 week mark and i found that for an hour and half i just sat there quietly sobbing (or mebbe not so quietly at times lol). let it allllllllll out. feel the kicks and rolls, comfort your baby and comfort yourself, that connection will come even if for only a second or two, but it will come . this is what i found totally awesome and a big release (i had my own fears related to my severe PTSD after DD1 was born and was *quietly* pooping in my pants
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