yep, id get on the blower to your midwife. also get that birth compilation ready and then of an evening once the kids are in bed and you are comfy in your pjs find a great little comfy chair (mebbe even the one that you will feed bubba in...mebbe in the bubs room) and put on the ipod with the earphones pumping and close your eyes, embrace that belly and just let it out. i did this around the 38 week mark and i found that for an hour and half i just sat there quietly sobbing (or mebbe not so quietly at times lol). let it allllllllll out. feel the kicks and rolls, comfort your baby and comfort yourself, that connection will come even if for only a second or two, but it will come . this is what i found totally awesome and a big release (i had my own fears related to my severe PTSD after DD1 was born and was *quietly* pooping in my pants