Homebirth General Discussion #6

[e_p]

hey HotI yep - DH and I were there - sitting close to the back near the door Loved the movie!! I was a little disappointed not to see Gaye there (I can't get enough of her calming, positive energy) but also so excited that she was off attending a birth

I only want minimal people at the birth - so far our midwife and a student...I'm trying to decide whether or not to ask my best friend to be there...I guess my reservation about her being there is that she doesn't 'get it' ??? If that makes sense....I don't think she gets that I want a homebirth because for me I believe it to be safer, but also its just a completely different approach and philosophy to hospital birth...I don't know :S

[HotI]

I was the other side of the room but also close to the back (maybe 3rd back row), what does your DH look like? what was he wearing ? there weren't that many men there so easier to pick out a man than a woman. bummer we didn't actually meet.

i really liked the second doco. can you remember the name of their fb page?

[e_p]

I was the other side of the room but also close to the back (maybe 3rd back row), what does your DH look like? what was he wearing ? there weren't that many men there so easier to pick out a man than a woman. bummer we didn't actually meet.

i really liked the second doco. can you remember the name of their fb page?

DH tall and thin, sandy hair, wearing glasses and was in a purple shirt and tie because he came straight from work

I think the second movie was called 'Trusting Birth' ??

[Jennifer13]

Cassius. Not very supportive or helpful to hear! I make it my mission to never impart horror stories of pg, birth, or babies to any of my gfs, particularly not those pg with their first! Why do people need to hear negative, drama-laden versions of someone else's experiences?

I'm sure you'll have a great HB story to share with her very shortly. I love watching the HB videos on youtube, they always make birth look like such a fabulous, life changing experience. Completely centres me and lines up with my expectations.

[Tegam]

hoti vent as much as you need too!

It never cease to amaze me how many people have forgotten what a vagina is meant for :

[Tegam]

Speaking of someone who knows how to use her VJJ

SIL went to hospital at 12noon...had baby at 2pm...home by 4pm she reckons! Little GIRL i think her name will be Zoe... She has a big sister called Claire!

Im an aunty again WOOHOO

[e_p]

Speaking of someone who knows how to use her VJJ

SIL went to hospital at 12noon...had baby at 2pm...home by 4pm she reckons! Little GIRL i think her name will be Zoe... She has a big sister called Claire!

Im an aunty again WOOHOO

awww congratulations Aunty Tegam!!

[HotI]

If you had to transfer post birth, due to bleeding or damage, would you have to strap baby in the car seat? I reckon that would be safest but i don't know that i would want to so soon after birth.

just my random thought for the day.

i was up over night vomiting and have spent the day on the couch. tummy settled a bit and i had a piece of toast an hour ago that stayed down. would be nice i was feeling baby now so i could just check they were doing ok.

[Smoke Jaguar]

Very much makes sense. My GF had both her boys in the FBC, where I had DS, but I knew she was the one and only candidate because when I was pg with DS and I said to guess what kind of birth I was having she said "Homebirth!"...and I said, well, no, it's a waterbirth, actually...what made you say homebirth? And she said homebirth would be in line with my values and I felt a niggle for the rest of the pregnancy that I wasn't having a homebirth if she believed I could do it!
So, when we knew I was pg again, I knew that I would have Helen Brown as my midwife and my GF as support for DS, even though DP lobbied hard to have a 'back up plan' for DS in case he had to be farmed out. I refused to have a back up plan because I steadfastly wanted DS to be there, and DS wouldn't have had it any other way.
Definitely, anyone who doesn't understand homebirth or its normality doesn't need to be there.

[e_p]

Definitely, anyone who doesn't understand homebirth or its normality doesn't need to be there.

Exactly what I was thinking!!

[Smoke Jaguar]

Well, that was easy, you're both off the hook!

[e_p]

Well, that was easy, you're both off the hook!

looks that way!! Now to deal with my mother and we're all set!!

[Cassius2]

dealing with my mother was quite intense...they seem to have a tendency to get very emotional about it all. but remember that if it does get funny (as it did with me) pop in here and let it all out. that's what i did and it really helped to get it out in words.

HotI: nah, in the end i stayed snuggled on my couch I have been super lazy this week as little M has decided to (after 10 months!) decide that she is a night owl .

Jennifer: have a great appointment! that is the wonderful thing about these appts, you get enough time to chat, connect and really build that relationship between all of you and I found that i had a better chance to really have enough time to talk about everything and anything that came up (none of that business of walking out of the OB office and a minute later remembering what it was that you wanted to say/ask IYKWIM).

[Tegam]

I have been super lazy this week as little M has decided to (after 10 months!) decide that she is a night owl .

Is it that separation stuff that happens about 9months? Maybe you just need to move a cot into your room for a few weeks so if she wakes she knows you are there (that is if you dont co sleep - if you do im fresh out of ideas )