Vent away hot1. I don't even bother with my mum. Were not close and she doesn't get it. I don't want to have to explain it to her and she doesn't understand. Before I understood why my sister hb'd she and I would always talk about how crazy she was, so I know she doesn't understand so I just don't open myself up to that convo.
Anyway this isn't my vent. I think having low expectations of most people's ability to understand hb especially when u r preg and just trying to be positive, is a good way of not being dissapointed. Then if they are cool about it it is a bonus.
HotI: i am sure that most of her comments are not malicious but probably more that it is about access to information. I know that if it werent for BB I would probably have some fairly crazy ideas still (even though I was always pro HB etc etc). I know that for my Mum, us having a HB was a big big learning curve and even then only a few days off the actual birth (she was staying with us to help out with Leila and be a support figure for me), she still came out with doozers like (but what if she poos? - having had me when enemas were the par for the course lol). it was really frustrating as I was still very adamant about creating only a positive and supportive space for me emotionally and physically and those comments, although mostly flippant were really rocking.
FWIW, my mum and i had a huge fight the day before DD2 was born and that got it all out and we were all good (that said i dont recommend letting build up for as long as i did...big pregnant crying can actually hurt the ol' stomach muscles lol).
(that said i dont recommend letting build up for as long as i did...big pregnant crying can actually hurt the ol' stomach muscles lol).
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