HotI: i am sure that most of her comments are not malicious but probably more that it is about access to information. I know that if it werent for BB I would probably have some fairly crazy ideas still (even though I was always pro HB etc etc). I know that for my Mum, us having a HB was a big big learning curve and even then only a few days off the actual birth (she was staying with us to help out with Leila and be a support figure for me), she still came out with doozers like (but what if she poos? - having had me when enemas were the par for the course lol). it was really frustrating as I was still very adamant about creating only a positive and supportive space for me emotionally and physically and those comments, although mostly flippant were really rocking.

FWIW, my mum and i had a huge fight the day before DD2 was born and that got it all out and we were all good (that said i dont recommend letting build up for as long as i did...big pregnant crying can actually hurt the ol' stomach muscles lol).