Hot1 -Other than accepting that people will ask you things that will make you ask questions at times, I have handled my DH's issues this time by asking him for the gift of his positivity about this birth. I asked, that if he did nothing else for me this time, that he protect and support me, by if not being positive, then not being negative. Maybe ask your friend to be supportive of where you are at by just by being protective of your mental state. Make sure you let them know that you have all of your bases covered and you arn't asking them not to question you because you haven't thought it thru, but because you have, your mind is made up and now you just want her/his help to have a great pregnancy. Tell them they can go do the research or get copies of what you have if they are really interested and want to learn.

Can I also say that it is ok for those sort of questions to make you ask yourself questions. Just let yourself ask them without placing a judgement on them. It is ok to have fears and worries about any kind of birth. No matter where you choose to birth their are risks and mums down thru the ages have all worried about themselves and their babies. So it is ok when those thoughts go thru your mind for whatever reason, be it because of a question or just because, for you just to let it come into your mind and then go out again. If I have learnt anything this pregnancy journey, it is that I don't have to be Zen at every moment to be just fine and in a really good place.

I hope that isn't too garbled and makes some sort of sense

XX Bella

PS everyone I have decided to have my friend photograph the birth