Ok so just had to relate part of my night tonight. DH as u may remember is a dr. We went to dinner with a bunch of other dr's tonight including a paediatric cardiologist and and a paediatric intensive care dr. Basically 8 specialist drs. Anyway the cardiologist sat across from me and we talked about his 4 kids and he related how his last child was accidentally born at home and how terrified because it was unexpected and he had no equipment to help his child if necessary. Anyway for him it was traumatic and I just asked gentle questions that explored how he had felt and validated his feelings. Fast forward to the end of the night. He has no idea that we r planning a hb cos trust me it wasn't the kind of group with whom u could reveal that info without shock and horror. Everyone is saying good bye and one old friend wishes me good luck with the birth(also not knowing about our choices). The cardiologist then also wishes me good luck and hopes for me that I don't end up with a home birth. Sigh.... The culture I am surrounded by is very lovely people, none of whom have a clue of where I am at. They don't mean to be unsupportive, although I don't doubt that they would have grave misgivings if I told them about our choices. Anyway, never mind. I just wanted to vent.