Homebirth General Discussion #7

[Cassius2]

Homebirth is not just about where you give birth. It's a philosophy.

There are homebirthers who didn't complete their births at home but still get it. And there are those whose births accidentally end at home when they didn't expect it, but don't experience at all the empowerment that comes from a planned homebirth.

We all know from the preparation and our feelings around birth going through this journey that it isn't all about where you are when baby's head crowns!

LOVE IT

this is exactly it!!

Bella: argh! it does suck....but, like you said, that was the crowd. there was not going to be any other perspective from them unfortunately. the GREAT thing is is that you will have a beautiful, supported birth surrounded by love xx (not long now!! i am jealous lol!)

[Bella29]

Thanks girls. It is so nice to be able to retreat into hear and just be surrounded by your goodness. I know that i can't change them so I don't waste my energy trying. And Cas, you are right. i am surrounded by lotsa really lovely supportive mammas who love me and respect and encourage my choices. I really am blessed. If I have to live a double life stm in order to protect me and my baby, then that is what I have to do. I would rather that than constantly have to defend my choices.

A woman from my yoga class recently asked me where I was having my baby and when I flippantly replied "at home" she clutched my arm dramatically and said "no wonder you were freaking out last week!!" (because she had seen me cry at yoga after a particularly bad nights sleep and a bit of a crisis of faith in myself). Anyway I assured her that it had nothing to do with my place of birth, just a normal part of expecting a baby and doubting my own ability when I was feeling particularly vulnerable.

Point being I am grateful for my community, both IRL and online.

XX Bella