Thanks Eutra. I appreciate your words of support. How is your precious little guy?

Regarding babymoons, I am going to make sure I have one this time!

With my first HB, I didn't leave home until DS was 12 days old (and it was a short outing to DD's swim lesson; DH there too). I just relaxed, spent most of my time on the couch, holding DS. DH had 6 weeks off work- it was awesome! I recovered really well from the birth. The day after DS's birth my MW said I looked great and didn't look like I had just given birth. I assumed it would be the same with my next HB.

With DS2, I had an intense 3 hour labour. I went in to labour after only 2 hrs sleep. My mum was staying with us and had offered to cook our meals- so we had nothing in freezer. On the day my DS was born, we got a call that my dad had been rushed to hospital. The next day my mum got in her car and drove the 10 hr trip home to be with my dad (fair enough!). But we were left unprepared. I was worried about my dad. And I felt bad that DH was left to do everything, so I abandoned my rest and started cooking and washing, etc. I don't know if there is a connection but by the time my DS was 1 wk old I was very ill with mastitis (had never had it before). I had very high temps, I was hallucinating, I had the most intense migraine for 2 days- I have never been so ill. Luckily some friends arrived to stay and they took care of our kids while DH took care of me. Unfortunately, my first trip out of the house after the birth was a trip to my GP without my DS I hallucinated at the GP appt. and I could barely walk. It took over a week for me to recover, and the pain of feeding continued for about 2 weeks. Our friends called my mum and asked her to come back after they left - and she did. My dad had come out of hospital by then.
Anyway, I am hoping to repeat the experience of my first HB this time around. And I have spoken to my MW about my desire to avoid another bout of mastitis. And I have told my DH that I am going to do absolutely nothing except hold my bub for the first week.