Homebirth general discussion #8

[Arimeh]

I love the way you look at it Cricket - DH has basically said that if I want it, I can have another one, however, I'm not clucky at all - yet I don't feel my family is complete either? Its very strange. I'm not the biggest fan of newborns (and I admit it!) they are cute, squishy and everything, but they frustrate me cos I never know what they want. I'm a toddler/kid person I think. When I start having an idea of what they need, I don't feel so useless so perhaps thats why I'm not clucky? I don't know. So confused.

As for PPH - does it matter if it was before or after the placenta was birthed? Both of mine happened after my placenta had come out. (apparently - DH told me!)

[*Ash*]

Thanks for thinking of me Cassius and Cricket - I am starting to feel very excited. I'm not sure when this little one will arrive. My first child came at 37 weeks, second at 40 +4, and third on the EDD. I do have a slight inkling that this one will come just before the EDD (ha! famous last words), but I am not phased. I am aware that my preg journey is nearly over, and that is a little sad. This is probably our last baby. Yep, we are stopping at number 4 too

[Arimeh]

Probably....? Hehe Ash, I said that DD3 was definitely my last.... and now we are contemplating another one. Probably never happen though...

But all the best for your upcoming birth! How exciting!

[*Ash*]

Thanks MNB when I was preg with my 3rd child I told a few people that he was our last bub. By the third tri, I knew I wanted to have another bub. So now I just say this is 'probably' my last birth or 'probably' my last bub. The logical part of my brain tells me that this should be it but I don't feel 'done'. I am kind of hoping that I feel 'done' after this bub. But I may just be one of those women who has to grieve the end of her child-bearing years. I sort of envy women who know that they are 'done'. It would be reassuring to feel that way. In my wildest dreams, I never imagined that I would have 4 kids- 3 seemed radical! Up until my mid-20's, I wasn't having any kids! DH and I never said 'lets have a big family'. I just assumed I would only have 2 kids- like my own mum. But during my preg with #2, I knew that I wanted another.

Interestingly, DH told me years ago (when we were newly 'dating') that he wanted a large family -4 or 5 kids. I remember thinking 'this guy has got to be joking' While ttc this bub, I told myself that he/she would be the last one. But now I'm not so sure. DH and I haven't really discussed it, but he knows about my frequent use of the term 'probably' - and he hasn't commented negatively. I have also had a few friends and relatives say that they can easily imagine us having more kids. That probably isn't helping at the moment Maybe I need them to tell me we are mad!
I was speaking to a close friend- who stopped at 3, despite considering 4. She reminded me that, of course I will be clucky in the first year, and particularly after the birth. I don't intend to decide straight away anyway. I wouldn't be ttc for 2 or 2.5 years anyway.
But now is the time for me to focus on this little bub, whom I can't wait to meet.

[meow]

But during my preg with #2, I knew that I wanted another.

Oh that's me too! I think we'll 90% try for another. I'm feeling swept up in "just being a mumma" and I want to keep going and going now. I finally understand the mother of close friends of ours who had 9 babies! I'm getting too old for a big brood now, I think a #3 would be our last.

I am thinking of you all the time Ash... your little water baby's rainy arrival is in my mind often. If your gorgeous one arrives soon please know I'm dreaming of a blissful birth for you xx

Looking forward to your impending baby MNB

[*Ash*]

I am thinking of you all the time Ash... your little water baby's rainy arrival is in my mind often. If your gorgeous one arrives soon please know I'm dreaming of a blissful birth for you xx

Aaaww, thanks so much meow. Your kind and supportive words mean a lot to me. As I type, it is raining again! Like you, I am loving being a mumma. I am very excited to hear that you are most likely going to have another bub. Yay! And we get to do names again

Hi loulabelle, you are in my thoughts. I hope your bub arrives while your friend is visiting. I am not feeling quite ready yet either. I'll feel better when the synto is in my fridge tomorrow! My DH purchased the hose today, so the birth pool is organised.

I am organised practically, ie. I have all my labour and baby 'stuff' organised. But I haven't had much of a chance to cocoon and retreat in to myself. My son starts school tomorrow, and I have been quite teary about that. My DH starts his leave in a week, so I would like to have a couple of days with him before the birth. This will be my first experience of mothering a newborn while having older children at school. When DS2 was born, none of my kids were at school.

Eutra - How are you going now that DH has been back at work for a few days? It is lovely that he was able to have such a lengthy time at home with you and bub. My DH always takes 6 weeks off with each bub. He saves up his annual leave from the moment we know I am pregnant. Also, he is entitled to a week of paid paternity leave. He usually takes a week or two of unpaid leave (to bring it up to 6 weeks), but I think it is worth it to have him home for those early weeks.

[Cassius2]

oh man, i hope that i will be able to know when i am done too ash lol! i reckon i am going to be someone that has to grieve the end of the baby days...and then become an overbearing grandma

[meow]

i reckon i am going to be someone that has to grieve the end of the baby days...and then become an overbearing grandma

Oh me too! The woman I know who had 9 babies still grieved she was done (had an emergency hysterectomy with the 9th) and started hassling the older kids for grandchildren

Loulabelle you are so close too! I wonder who will be first. This HBing thing is getting busy!!