homebirth general discussion #9

[Cricket]

Cricket: Its plenty early enough for baby to move around. Remember us multis have heaps of room in their, so that can lead to bubs being in lazy positions but its means we have one well trained uterus to know what to do when labour starts! Ive had two posterior births and the 2nd was no where near the same as the first I dont like the sound of the 3rd MW.

Thanks Tegam. I *know* that's true, but it still has me a little worried. I'll just have to keep reminding myself not to worry, and have a peek at the Spinning Babies site to see if I can encourage this little one over to the "good side".

Welcome lady-neon! Congratulations! Water birth is a WONDERFUL way to have a baby.

[Tegam]

Cricket have I ever told you how totally and utterly green with loving envy I am that you are having another baby hmmm any tips on getting my DH to give me another baby?

[Cricket]

Cricket have I ever told you how totally and utterly green with loving envy I am that you are having another baby hmmm any tips on getting my DH to give me another baby?

Thanks for the kind words, Tegam! It's always nice to hear someone speak like that, rather than "Are you crazy?!" (Although, TBH, I haven't had too much of that either, thankfully!) What's holding your DH back? Finances? Fear of other's reactions? Feeling overwhelmed as a dad? I can only imagine how frustrating it must be to have one partner feel like they're "done" when the other one isn't.

DH and I probably have approached the whole idea of parenthood from a different perspective than most. I'm the oldest of 8 kids myself, so my family doesn't feel overly "big" yet, and DH's is one of four, and his parents always wished they could have more. (MIL had severe PCOS, and then cancer.) Plus, we belong to a church with many young, large families. So, we don't feel too out of place, and have lots of support around us. That makes a big difference! The deciding factor for us though, is that because we are Christians, we believe what the Bible says about children - that they are a great blessing from God. So, the more, the merrier, right? We have never used any birth control thus far, and I can honestly say that we've been given everything that we've needed to deal with the crazy times, and occasional chaos that comes with a house full of little people. The kids give us a GREAT deal of joy, to go along with the grey hair.

DH and I are trying to decide how/if/when we will decide that we are done. This pregnancy has been more difficult and painful for me, and I'm not sure how many more I can do, if they get worse! DH totally sympathizes and respects that, and does whatever he can to help, and I'm very thankful for his support. Right now, we're saying one more, after this baby, and depending on how that pregnancy goes, we might be done.

For us, my health is probably the primary consideration in our "family planning". Finances and everything else is secondary. The conception of a child is the creation of an eternal soul - what can compare with that?

Not sure if that helps you out at all - pardon my rambling. Hope you can convince your DH to have another! I've never heard anyone say they regretted having another baby. Sometimes it comes as a shock, and you don't feel prepared and wonder how it will work out, but it DOES work out, and the love and joy that a new little person brings far outweighs the challenge they present.