Help... Baby too big? - Is scan/induction necessary?

[MantaRay]

Greg, well done to you and your DW. Many more pg women need you there to advocate for them!!

Please keep us informed, I can't wait to read a birth announcement from you. I wish you both all the very best over the next few weeks.

[HotKim]

Greg, good on you for standing up for yourself!!! And your wife!!

As an expectant mother whose last delivery resulted in shoulder dystocia I had similar 'privileges' revoked when the midwife based care program I applied for accepted and them dumped me. What irks me most is that surely my experience means I can only benefit from having one on one care instead of having me, my baby and my history passed on to every midwife and doctor in the hospital?

Anyway, based on research done over a few months I've decided to go ahead with a c-section. I'm happy with my decision which I think is the key thing in cases like these, that you don't feel cornered or bullied into an outcome. I can accept the consequences of my own decisions but would cetainly not those made without my support.

Best of luck!!

[chocolatecatty]

Sigh. How exasperating for you both. I'm glad your DW's bp is down...she must be very self controlled!

Fingers crossed you get a room with a bath and a most fantastic midwife who suprises you with her likemindedness.

Less than one month to go for you! How exciting! Now you can focus on the birth and life after birth rather than all these silly things.

[Trillian]

Welcome to the world of knObs and hospital 'policy' You've done well to tell them what you've researched and not be cut off mid sentence in my book LMAO. It is complete and utter bull**** they way they carry on about it - I read a quote once that was something along the lines of 'obstetricians are the lunatic fringe of an otherwise normal world' and it couldn't be more true if you ask me.

Can't wait to hear the next installment Greg.

[Trish]

Greg, awesome effort hun. If only there were more men like you in the world. My DP would have agreed if they said they had to cut my legs off to get the baby out.

I had to do all the standing up for myself on my own. No wonder I choose to birth at home for the last 2 babies.

I hope you and your wife have a beautiful birth. Can't wait to hear how it all goes for you both

[mountain mummy]

I remember my first pregnancy, I kept being told I had a "good sized baby in there", and I was actually scheduled for an induction on a certain date if he hadn't been born yet. This date just so happened to be around the time that I estimated I was due, but two weeks post dtaes as far as the docs were concerned (they moved my EDD forward two weeks at my 18 week ultrasound due to a "large baby" - I am only 5ft! And how your dates can be out by two weeks is beyond me!)

Anyway, I went into labour literally the night before this scheduled induction and birthed a 9lb 1oz baby boy, which none of the docs or midwives thought was possible considering my size. But while I was labouring, they kept trying to force an epidural onto me (I was very adamant about not having one) then they started threatening me that because it was the wee hours of the morning, the anethetist was about to go home, so it was my last chance - apparently I said good, let him go home! They started getting concerned that I was going to have to have a c-section, so they kept the poor guy around for nothing!!

Yes, I had drugs, and I let them do some stuff that I didn't really want (ie an episiotomy) but it was my first baby and I was uneducated.

Bravo for you and your wife researching ... IMO knowledge is power, even if sometimes it feels as though you are at a disadvantage because of it!

[Snoopea]

Good on you Greg, Best of luck with the upcoming birth sounds like it'll be a quick one, Hope the blood pressure goes back down(Yours not your wifes). Bet you wanted to hit the midwifes & Ob heads against the wall!
Snoopea