I remember my first pregnancy, I kept being told I had a "good sized baby in there", and I was actually scheduled for an induction on a certain date if he hadn't been born yet. This date just so happened to be around the time that I estimated I was due, but two weeks post dtaes as far as the docs were concerned (they moved my EDD forward two weeks at my 18 week ultrasound due to a "large baby" - I am only 5ft! And how your dates can be out by two weeks is beyond me!)

Anyway, I went into labour literally the night before this scheduled induction and birthed a 9lb 1oz baby boy, which none of the docs or midwives thought was possible considering my size. But while I was labouring, they kept trying to force an epidural onto me (I was very adamant about not having one) then they started threatening me that because it was the wee hours of the morning, the anethetist was about to go home, so it was my last chance - apparently I said good, let him go home! They started getting concerned that I was going to have to have a c-section, so they kept the poor guy around for nothing!!

Yes, I had drugs, and I let them do some stuff that I didn't really want (ie an episiotomy) but it was my first baby and I was uneducated.

Bravo for you and your wife researching ... IMO knowledge is power, even if sometimes it feels as though you are at a disadvantage because of it!