DH and I went through a similar confusing process when DD was born in September last year (our first child too!). Every person you talk to and every book you read will suggest something different .

We decided that I would breastfeed if possible but were also open to bottlefeeding if breastfeeding didn't work. Luckily, DD and I were able to breastfeed and demand feeding has worked perfectly. DD is content because she feeds when she wants food and I think breastfeeding is just so easy/convenient.

As for spoiling, they are innocent beings who need our love and attention and in my opinion there is no way you can overdo things. Just relax and enjoy the magical ride you have coming your way