I guess that's where my frustration lies - not in the mothers, but in their supposed 'support systems'. Instead of trying to get mothers in touch with their own confidence and instincts (somewhere, not matter how deep down, us mammals know what to do, but modernisation has removed us from ourselves a lot), they impose someone else's methods on women who are desperate for the answers. Kitty, I do completely agree that they need our compassion! When I shake my head at these stories, it's usually because someone who is in a position to know and teach better has failed to empower someone properly
That's separate from supply issues - losing that kind of weight has got to come at a price, but you are both well and that's the important part! Back in the old days, there would have been someone in your 'village' who would have fed your child in your situation, because, yes, breastfeeding fails from time to time (naturally, not because of lifestyle related issues) in all mammals! It's when breastfeeding needn't fail that I become dismayed for the child and mummy