my own limited experience with "real hippy mums", to my enormous surprise, was to see formula bottles and disposable nappies!!!

so the stereotype of what so called hippy mums do, and what i have actually seen real hippy mums do, was SO at odds.

i look nothing like a hippy, but used MCN from arrival to toilet training (then cloth training pants as well) and breastfed from arrival to 4 years old. i did those things because it was my gift to my DD, of what i felt was the best thing i could do for her (protect her from chemicals next to her skin etc) - not to fit into a stereotype or anything. People who know nothing about MCN or bf-ing, do tend to come out with off the wall comments.

it helped my (at the time) dh, to go to a Partner's Seminar on breastfeeding, put on by ABA, when you're heavily pregnant, to learn independently about bf-ing, the role of the father in bf-ing (how incredibly important his support is, to the success of the bf-ing rship). that made so much difference to his attitude. He was won over in real life by how healthy the bf-ing made DD. he saw for himself how she didn't come down with the multitude of illnesses that other bubs her age were getting, that was cold hard evidence. So when she turned two, and was still very fond of bf-ing, it didn't phase him at all.

Sometimes men have unsaid issues. e.g it's not the bf-ing they're worried about, it's the worry about "will the breastfeeding mean i go for years without sex?" it's that sort of area that needs to be addressed, instead of them verbalising anti-bfing comments, when what they REALLY might be worried about, could be something else. blame one thing, when it's really another.