Oh (B)engeltje you poor poor thing! I can only imagine how horrible this is for you. Can you ask your partner to put your ds to sleep for a while? A friend of mine, who is a hard core natural parenting mum said to me that it is important for us mums to realise that we have raised our kids to be nurtured, loved and respected and they are just that -- so a little upset is not the end of the world -- he will survive.
One night I had to go out after putting ds to sleep and he woke to find only dad. He was incredibly unhappy, but my husband took him around the house to show that I wasn't there and he settle realising that this was all he would get. In our case, a bottle of very diluted cow's milk.

I have managed to successfully wean and we are fine and all happy about it. About a month after these posts, I found I am pregnant (!!) so the breast feeding free time will be short lived! haha
It wasn't quick, or easy, but there were very few tears. However, I had the time to do this.

Much much love and support to you in your weaning. Don't forget, you have done a great job already adn laid all foundations that your ds will survive it -- ok maybe not happy, but he will be fine.

xxx