Hi Meredith,

I faced the same decision when Charlie was 11 months old. We wanted to do an FET and because it was unmedicated, my FS agreed to let me try without weaning. Unfortunately despite having regular periods, it was looking like I wasn't going to ovulate, and my FS suggested I wean. In a rush of desperation, I did in fact wean Charlie at 11.5 months, only to find my cycle cancelled anyway.

In retrospect, I wish I had not rushed to wean. Charlie was not ready, and after all we'd been through. we were finally relaxing and enjoying our BFing relationship. I too felt the biological clock ticking, but the price I paid (the loss of that special time with my son) was too high a price to pay in the end.

Looking back the thing I regret most is not that I lost time on the TTC wagon, but that I gave up something I will never have with Charlie again. If I had my chance to do it all again, I would have waited until he was 18 months/2 years before deciding on whether to wean if he hadn't already done it himself. He's almost 2 already, and that time went faster than I thought possible. I still mourn what could have been.

And more than that, there are no studies that show that FSH doesn't cross BM, so while I know it's a temptation to not tell FS that you're still BFing, I would definitely seek his advice before attempting another cycle. Your longing for a child won't wane with time, I know, but it will survive a few more months of you putting your and your son's BFing relationship first. And remember, even if you wean, it doesn't mean you'll immediately start Oing again. It took me close to 6 months to get regular cycles again, so you may wean and it might be for nothing after all.