SBS doco last night

[Heaven]

I thought it was great too, it was so interesting.

But I have a question (of course, you know me, )
It's about the hijab (I think that's the right word). Anyway, lots of non-muslims have the idea that women are made to wear the hijab, etc, etc. But from being on BB we know from the lovely muslim ladies on here that this is not the case and it is the womans choice if she wants to wear it or not and completely her decision.

But on this program what was with the couple who just got married? Dave was asking them about the wife wearing the hijab (which she wasn't at the time). And the husband was saying he would like her to put it on in the future (which she agreed with) and Dave asked what would happen if she decided she didn't want to wear it. And the husband said that he would want her to wear it and would tell her to wear it and he said something like 'if I asked her 3 times to put it on and she didn't then I would leave her'. They were saying that it's his duty to get her to wear it because otherwise she is causing him to sin??
Now I am confused because from the way they were speaking I thought it came across that he would pressure her into wearing it (this wasn't happening tho b/c she wanted to). Did they just not explain it very well? What is going on? Can someone explain better for me? I was worried after seeing this bit that it would also perpetuate the view that some people have that muslim women are 'opressed'. Anyways, it just totally confused me as you can tell, would be good if someone could explain!

Also, we saw the couple have a sort of 'arranged' marriage? That's not quite the right word though...I don't know how to explain. Is this how is usually happens or were we seeing a more 'strict' group of the muslim community? And is is true that a muslim woman can not marry a non-muslim man but a muslim man can marry a non-muslim woman?