Tell them to shove it, seriously.

Gotta be honest with you, I just gave up. I should have made more of an effort earlier on to make friends with other parents and more responsible adults because it was a lonely time... I just gave up - on waiting for them to understand, because it just felt like banging my head against a brick wall.

We came straight home from hospital but it was never the same from the second we told people we were expecting. DHs two close friends at the time tried to tell him I was making the wrong decision and if I wasn'y giving him the right to have a say in my choice he should leave me - some friends! I tried to keep going out (not drinking obviously) but it was never good enough because I wanted to go home early etc... Then when baby came to get people to visit we used to bribe them with a good meal.

Noone liked to drive the forty minutes to see us (because WE moved away) but it was okay to expect us to spend two freakin hours on public transport to go and see them and then get made to feel uncomfortable for breastfeeding, or for the crying, or for the smelly nappies.

We just do what we can now, if it's not good enough too bad. Hopefully the ones worth keeping around will come round after a while and try to make more reasonable plans with you. We have a few that try... I mean drinks at our place may not be as fun but its' still us, drinks and company.

You arent doing anything wrong, you gottas do what you need to for your FAMILY. That come first now.