Hi hun.
I haven't read through all the posts, I will come back when I have time, but I completely understand.
I fell pg with DD1 at 17. They were way more than just disappointed. They threatened a trip to Sydney for a termination & all sorts of things.
Then I fell pg with DD2 when I was 20. They were disappointed then. I was pretty upset coz I was older, I thought I was doing ok with DD1 & I thought they agreed. Plus I'd waited 3 years too. I was actually proud of that.
DS was the first congrats I got. I was 23 when I fell pg with him. & married by then too. All 3 have the same father & even though they weren't happy (weren't happy right up til DD1 was born) they do love the kids.
They are the best grandparents I could ask for. My kids are very lucky that all their grandparents are so good
Good luck hunny, you'll get there.