Although Im not married nor have kids, i just wanted to say that, i changed my last name when my mum re-married, but my previous last name happens to be the same last name Rick has!!! Now dont get us wrong! Ricks dad was adopted into this family, so we are definatley not related by blood, although it did freak us out too when we found out! So we cant hypen names, and our kids will not miss out on having mummy and daddy with the same last name, if it came down to that i would change my name back (if we arnt married by then), i guess we are kinda lucky there.
BUT............
People look at weirdly when we tell them we have been together for 3 1/2 yrs and we are NOT married and DONT have kids! they think there is something wrong with us! Hello its not the same thing for everyone!! and then get the complete opposite when i tell the same people we are trying!!! telling me we should wait enjoy life while we can (is being a mother a death sentance??!!) and if it happens then it happens we shouldnt worry about trying now!! talk about a walking contridiction!!!!
So i guess it comes from all sides of things, no matter what your situation, you are bound to get comments!
DH and I got married when we were 23 and 20 (almost 21) respectively. We got so much grief from so many people, including our celebrant! When people find out I'm married now I get the "Oh! But you're just a baby!" or "So young? Any kids?" or "why did you get married so young?" (and that one is even more popular when they find out how ling I've been married!) I get so cross with it! I hate it when people ask why I got married so young or how long we had been together before we got married. My standard response is "when you know, you know".
Hhhmmmm, sounds like regardles of our marital status, the quizzical eyes are continually casting across us! Weird isn't it, if you're married young but without children the eyebrows are raised and the questions are fired and and you're not married, but have children you have the same thing. It's just never-ending.
Most of my utility bills come Miss Jayne Shirra and it gives me the willies because when you ring up to change something on your account etc... they think they've got the wrong person because you say Mrs not Miss whereas it was their own assumption to put Miss and not ask about being a Mrs!!! grrrr!! LOL.
Michelle - Quite glad you chose not to go with the hyphen on your surname. You know I'm related to the Cox's all over Sydney & Perth?
Naomi - Wow!! You kinda struck gold there! You can be Mrs or Miss whenever it suits you! LOL.
I remember when I was in the hospital (I was induced and stayed the night before the induction), in the morning the midwife asked who would be in the birthing suite with me and when I said my husband she became a tongue-tied mess, she didn't know what to say!
I just find it funny that no matter what your circumstances you get opinions from everybody including the checkout operator at the supermarket! LOL.
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