This sounds a little familiar. Im currently pregnant with my second and with live in the granny flat PIL built for us when i feel pregnant with my first. I think the whole protectiveness of their boys is quite a common thing and because you are technically under her roof then its easier for all to abide by her rules iykwim?
We are moving out hopefully by the end of this year. I think DP will notice some changes when we are out on our own as i am not his mother, and dont except being treated like it. So im hoping things will change for the best and he will take care of his responsibilities.
Oh gosh I feel for you girls.
DF is bad enough with not doing anythign for himself and we live 900kms away from his parents.
I think I would go insane if we were in your position. to both of you.
i am so glad im not the only one in this sorta situation i felt like i was the only one going through this and it sucks so bad to cause all my friends and family live 6 hours away all i want to do sometimes is runaway back to my home town but dp said that that was not an option at the beggining cause of his work so i am sacrifising my needs for him and putting up with his mother. it sucks and im so close to my mum yet i have to live so far away.
sometimes all i want is for my mum to be here and me and tell me everything will be okay.cause i feel all alone here is brisbane.
thanks to everyone who replied i really appreciate it.
Well i don't mean to sound so 'morbid'... but would you, and your baby, be better off close to your parents and your friends.
It is going to be emotionally unhealthy if you feel isolated and depressed because the people you want near you are so far away. Of course it will be very hard without your DP, if he chose not to follow but surely if he has experience he can get work somewhere else? That and sometimes he will have to make sacrifices too?
No probs From someone who has a MIL like this, please take it from me...you do need to be firm about where you stand from early on. Otherwise it gets worse and worse! Mine has now been semi trained but still butts in in the middle of me disciplining my child for example, I am saying - No don't do that, it's naughty and she is butting in with don;t do that etc etc GRRRR
thats one thing im afraid of her butting in when im trying to discipline him? and i no i would be much better of close to my family but im to scared to leave i love my partner and im really afraid that if i moved he would feel obliged to move and then later on resent me for making him move? i just dont no what to do cause he plans on taking over the family business in a couple of years, so to me that pretty much means that if i had any thoughts of us moving to my home town to be a family just got thrown out the window. so im trying sooo hard to make the best of my life here in brisbane as much as it sucks at least i have my man still.
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to both of you.
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