I can't agree more with what everyone has said in this forum!!

I have a critical error reading below my post *frown* so I am going to be rude and say to the person whom I can't remember that I too am terrified of telling people that I am pregnant. my mum will be thrilled as I have been talking to her about it for a long time and she has accepted it fully now. The others however...

I just think it would be terrible to announce your pregnancy and have your parents or IL's react in a negative way. That reaction will stay with you forever. Then I think maybe you should tell them when you TTC but then they will spend months trying to convince otherwise and it is added pressure should TTC end up being longer then you had hoped.

It is very messy really... I am beginning to stand on my own 2 feet slowly and I am realising that I am going to make mistakes whether I listen to everyone or make my own decisions. I think it is just a learning curve really.

The worst thing is I really want to have children NOW!!! I have to wait due to my new job till next year which sadly enough brings some form of relief in the fact that I don't have to hide TTC yet or announce a pregnancy that will be unwelcome (at first) with a lot of people. Don't get me wrong all involved will love their grandchild - it is just the initial 'Your only 21 (at least I will be then) you've got your whole life ahead you' crap that I will relieved not to hear yet!!!