Young mums

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Well I fell pg with DD1 at 17. My mum was very disappointed. Threatened to put me in the car & force me to terminate. She'd already done that once 3 months before.
DH & I had been together over 12 months & were very happy about it. It wasn't planned, but not an accident either iykwim.
So my mum was the biggest hurdle. I never spoke a word to her through the whole pregnancy about anything to do with the baby. She made me feel like she didn't want to know.
Her & MIL were there for the birth though, along with DH & I wouldn't have gotten through without them.

In hospital I felt left out... My MW's in labour were great, but nurses in maternity never really acknoweledged me. Well me they did, but DD1 didn't get much attention. The baby next to me was gorgeouse & beautiful, but mine was just another baby. Made me feel pretty low TBH.

People who knew me were great. Never questioned anything I did, but I got the odd person say something to me. Once I had her out of the car for 5 minutes to pick up a pizza. It was winter & cold, but I didn't have a hat or beanie on DD. An old lady told me off for it. Even though I was in & out & not knowing I had a heater in the car, so she would've been too hot with a hat.

When pg with DS, even though I was 23/24, people were always surprised when they tried to offer me advice & I said I already had 2 at home. Then lost interest in talking to me.
People asking me what I do, me answering 'I'm a mum', them saying, 'yeah, but what do you do??'
Disapproving looks when shopping, people not realising that I am still with the father of my first child. Wondering why her hair is blonde (she gets it from him!)

For me though, the hardest thing is friends. Its hard to get childless friends of any age to understand what its like having kids, but when your friends still go to school & live with mum & dad with pocket money & the washing up as their only responsibility it gets harder.

Even now, we have friends with only 1 child & very supportive parents who refuse to accept that 3 is harder than one (she actually told me 3 is easier!!) Her mum babysits whenever she clicks her fingers...mine can't. She works full time & DS is still BFed, so will want me during the night. Then there's the whole money issue...we are only just getting by. They are doing ok, so don't get why we can't stay at resorts, or go out when ever thay want us too.

Sorry, that went on a bit. I've never gone to mothers groups because I've never fit in. I didn't go to prenatal classes. I didn't really know anything about that sort of stuff.