I don't know... I get referred to as a young Mum all the time... and I find it strange now that I am days away from being 32... admittedly I did have my eldest son when I was 18, but still being referred to as young is strange but it is still flattering all the same! lol
My nana was considered to be a late bloomer because all her friends were married and had babies before 20 and she was 21 when she had her first, my mum was always told how old she was because she had me at 32, now 32 and older is more normal than before 30 lol just funny to see how contexts change. I'm called a young mum all the time but I feel like a "right age" mum for me
Well i'm 21, have 2 kids and ttc#3. I think i'm a young mum. Lately though i have seen and heard of more and more younger people having kids. Like 20-23yo. So i reckon this age group will soon be not considered so young anymore. I reckon it's great being the age that i am though and having kids because i'm not too old to run around with them and i won't be too old to run around with my grandkids either, which i would love.
I think anyone under 25 is considered young mums these days, most people aren't having kids til their 30's
My mum was 15 when she had my big sis and is now a mother of 8 the youngest being 5months. In my opinion she started too young (not judging anyone else) she just wasn't mentally ready
I'll be 23 when Bob is born, turning 24 in July, DP will be a few weeks off 27. My mum was 23 when she had my older sister, 25 when she had me 27 when she had my brother and 29 when she had my younger sister.
when I had my 1st at 21 I was put in a young mum group as the hospital found that those under 24 felt better in a group of women who where all 24 and under with out been judged by the older mums.
but you are only as old as you feel I guess some people who are in there late 20's might feel that they are a young mum due to there friend not having kid iykwim.
Now I feel quite old at 28 with three kids and think that if I have my planned 4th at 31 I will almost too old which I know is silly as I will be of " normal "age but when you have your 1st at a young age having one at 31 will seam old.
I had DS a month off my 21st. At the time I didn't feel young at all, I was totally ready. Now, if I heard of a 20 yo having a child i'd think it was pretty young...I guess it depends on the person. Having said that I wouldn't want either of my daughters to have children that young (not judging anyone - as I said, I had my first then).
The Young Approach to Pregnancy and Parenting Program, at the GH, where i'll be having bubby, is open to mum's 21 and under... so basically anyone over this age bracket is not able to receive the extra 'young parent support'
A little off topic, but funny to think that...
Centrelink defines you as dependent on your parents until age 24 (unless you prove otherwise).
Tax Office defines you as independent one you are 16 or over and are no longer studying full time.
Be amazing if they could 'regulate' the system, wouldn't it?
here to really Caryn as my sister's who are all very my city girls ( in melbourne ) are in their 30's and there is no way they are even thinking about kids and here I am their baby sis and have 3 I guess its when you meet the right guy you feel ready to have a child, before that you couldnt see it. iykwim
Ashant, I agree! You can vote at 18 but be killed for your country at 16. You can buy alcohol and cigarettes at 18 but have a baby legally at 16. You need parental consent to marry at 16. The law is crazy!
Our breastfeeding support group was originally for young mums, 25 and under. I was 25 when I had DS (he was 8 days old on my 26th birthday) so was able to slip into the group, mostly because it was a quiet group and younger mums didn't turn up.
Tali, I don't know about the right guy. Many girls seem to just grab a guy to get pregnant then dump him. It's really sad to see that happen. I was on the lookout for my Mr Right, but my sister can't see hers even though he flies to the States to buy her gifts from Tiffany's! (I really like her current chap.)
When our grandparents had kids, over 20 was old, when mum had kids, under 20 was young, I had always thought under 25 as young... but now under 30 is considered young! Who knows! Some people live at home with parents until 25-30! Don't even think about marriage, owning a home or that stuff...
I'd rather be a young mum, my SIL is 34 and had her first at 20, mum had me at 18, and another frien has hers at 18, and they all agree, when you're younger its easier to "bounce back" (their words not mine lol) and deal with sleepless nights etc.
I think under 21 is young, i think you really need to enjoy your 18th and 21st birthday before getting into the stress of being responsible for a human life. i know a few people who haven't done this and the are now regretting not enjoying partying with thier friends before having kids. 1 who has split from her fiance because they were too young when they commited to each other and thier little girl.
Everyone is different and that is not always the case i always wanted to have kids at 20 (and was ready)but as time went by other things happened and at 27 i will have my 1st. it also depends if you have been with a partner for 5 years then you would feel ready at a young age, and also the people around you and how mature you are. i think 25 is ideal.
I guess, on the other hand nads159... My mum had me at 18, and my parents are still together... my friend who had hers at 18 just celebrated their 10th anniversary, and my SIL celebrates 15 years with her hubby this year..... so I think it all depends on the individual too (Plus all were together less than a year when they fell pregnant...).
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What do you classify as a "young mum"?
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