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Welcome Taegan! Congrats on quiting smoking, well done!!
And welcome back Jess :D
It's great to see this thread come back alive!! I really miss talking with people in similar situations.
I'm off to the dr tomorrow, I have depression and for some years have not been taking my tablets... which has really taken it's toll on me. It's about time I got my life back in order and get control of things.... I hate not having control!!
My house is a mess with brendan's toys... but i'm so over picking them up!!
Dp has gone to work with my dad for the day, he's a truck driver and DP wants to be one... :lol:
We are going to Perth together tomorrow, for some retail therapy... oh yeah! :lol:
Take Care
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oh retail therapy, i need some of that!! lol. good on you for realising that your not going aswell as you could be. hope it all goes well with the DR
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is there much shopping in perth>>?
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not really :lol: Nothing like melbourne!! I loved being in melb and wish I could fly over once a month for the DFO's!!
Thanks Amy.
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yeah there is the city and a few big shopping centres with lots of shops, pretty much the same shops as melbourne, like sports girl, cotton on, kookai etc... but melbourne has a bigger range of fashion.
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Sally :hug: Good luck at the doctors tomorrow, I know how hard it can be.As for shopping, hopefully that puts you in a better mood.
Beautiful Madness, Tell me about feeling old!I can relate to that! I feel like I am 40! I'm only 24 but married with a child lol.
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Hi girls,
Congrats on the weight loss Amy, keep up the good work and GL to Ash.
I plan to join the gym again once bubs is born, im 67 now and will prob be bout 63-64 after i have her so i'll be needing to kick my junk food habit (maccas is my weakness, lol) and lose 10kg, hopefully the breast feeding will help... it only took me 4 months to lose 12kg with alyssa and i was alot bigger so hopefully it'll take me even less time this time.
Congrats on quiting smoking Taegan, im proud of ya, im not a smoker and never have been but one less smoker makes my lungs feel better. lol.
Brendans Mum- GL at the doc
Retail therapy sounds great but after my big news on Sat im staying away.
On Saturday we spoke with a mortgage broker and he said he'd give us a home loan now, DP earns **** money and im not even working but they would give us one, we are stoked, thrilled, its great news.... although we are not buying yet, we are going to keep saving and wait til end of next yr to buy, DP will have a better paying job or a pay rise by then and i can go back to work part-time. Ooooh so exciting, things are finally coming together.
Only 6 more weeks til my bubs is born, we are all very exciting, especially alyssa, she gives my tummy kisses everynight and tells Charli she loves her and cant wait to meet her....
Bought Alyssa a preschool activity book the other day and im a soooooo proud of her, i know she is smart for her age but she if flying through this book with ease, my clever lil chicken is getting big and smart.
Well im off to vacume and fold washing, then i might have a nap :)
Enjoy the rest of your day ladies and take care
xxxxx KiRRa xxxxxxxx
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That's great news Kirra. Im on the other end, I wish my mum would get off my back about us buying a house. Anthony isn't on the greatest salary and we'd be taking more than 50% a fortnight to pay off a loan. There is no way I am doing that. I refuse to pay anymore than 30% of what we earn on our housing. We're going to save up for as long as possible and get a huge deposit before we buy.
Just wish people would stop calling rent money dead money, because what the heck is interest? :doh:
Lol, anyway, good luck with the impending labour and birth ;)
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Can i ask does anyone have any suggestions about telling my mum about me being pregnant
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My mum guessed (i got twnety questions when i was quiet on the phone) so I'm not sure
Do you plan on telling her over the phone or in person?
Do you want it to come across as scared and fearful or would you like to feel confident about it?
If you wangt to show her from the start that you're happy and you have made this decision consciously (rather than fearing what she might say) you could buy her a fridge magnet or something that says "What happens at Grandma's stays at Grandma's" Do your brothers have any children or is the the first grandchild?
Or just come out with it?
Sorry i don't have any better advice, good luck!
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i was planning o tell her in person as i live with her, im not sure what i want it to come across as i just want her to know, my oldest brother has 2 kids and my middle brother and his first gf got pregnant twice but decided not to continue with the pregnancys, and so im scared
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If it was me, I would try and say something that acknowledges that you know she will disappointed (because it seems inevitable, right?), but right now you are scared, and you need her support. She can be as mad as she likes, but you need HER and only she can support you the way you might need at the moment.
I hope that makes sense.
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Sorry no ideas, but when I told my mum I only found out a week after getting a new tattoo on my leg and I told her at christmas. I said "oh look at my tattoo. do you like it? blah blah blah. Im pregnant. I like the blue in it, it took ages to get done blah blah blah" The the visitors turned up so she didnt say anything LOL I was scared to tell her because everything Id ever done was wrong or a mistake in her eyes, and it still was up until Maddie was born & now she's had a complete turn around now that she's seen I can cope and I dont need help.
Best of luck.:hug:
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thanks for that i think im just gonna have to spit it out perferably when there is nothing she can throw at me is around, my partner thinks we should take her out to dinner so she cant go nuts
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Dinner is a nice idea I think. She might walk out though, which i guess is better than creating an argument, but you might be better in an evironment where she will talk? You never know she might be really good about it... i hope so!
LEt us know how things go, will be thinking of you.
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I can't help but laugh at taking her out to dinner so she cant go nuts, prob cause that wouldnt stop my mum. lol
I sat down and told my mum i had to tell her something, then i went really quiet and she asked what it was, i said promise you wont yell at me first and then she guess first go i was preg. Not to scare you, she didnt yell at me but she did tell me i was terminating whether i liked it or not. I had seen my doc before i told her and my doc knows my mum so well she told me to decide what i wanted to do before i told my mum cause we all knew what she was gonna say.
I like Ash's idea about the fridge magnet but obviously its not gonna work so well if she already has grandkids. Maybe you could buy something (lil jumpsuit) and leave it in plain view where she will see it. Sorry im really bad at this, i was scared like you, but the quicker you get it over and done with the better it will feel. Think of it like a band-aid.
Good luck
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I just told my parents over the phone.Dad was really excited but mum just went silent.I was going 'Mum,Mum;Mum did you hear what I said?" down the phone and eventually she said 'I just have to process this Laura" she was shocked but ultimately happy.
Good luck.In the end she is your mother and will always love you and get over it.
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im not so sure about that laurab, i think i should see the doctor and get that all out of the way thantell her and i think it would be better if i told her coz she really will have a cow if there is a jumpsuit sitting around and my partner lives with us so he is expecting to get kicked out but if he goes so do i. coz we have some friends that have said we can stay with them if we need to. i wont tell her till next week sometime, i nearly told her this morning but i want to know how far along i am before telling her, im sorry if i have so many questions i just need reassurance and i havent told any of my friends yet
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Def go and see your doctor first, didn't realise that you hadn't yet.Get a blood test and find out exactly how far along you are.
Such a hard situation for you.Best of luck, it will all work out in the end.x
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wow so many good respones, i have no idea what to say, it is a hard one but the girls are right, go to the doc and then tell her, best to get it over and done with otherwise you will stress yourself out and thats not good for you and the bub. my mum wasnt happy either and wanted me to get a termination but i told her that this is my life and somewhere along the way i have to learn to make my own decisions and mistakes. in the end, when that baby is born she will never want to turn her back on you. good luck!
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I just handed mum the test the first time. I was terrified, but I had to do it.
The second time (DD1) I didn't tell her I knew. I let her guess after telling her I thought I had a tummy bug & she took me to a womens health clinic thing to find out together. I didn't really have to tell her then.
I was living out of home with DH by then.
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The first time i found out i was pg, 18, i wasn't living with my mum and i rang her balling my eyes out and told her my period was late. She drove in and stayed with me 1/2 the night for comfort. It ended in termination. With Brendan i rang her and she was at a function to which she shouted out to everyone that she was going to be a grandma! :lol: I was 20.
I suggest a blood test too.
AFM, didn't get into the dr, my usual one wasn't there... making an appointment with a local dr hopefully for monday!
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My first ended in termination too. My mum wasn't so nice. She pretty much forced us into it. She was on our backs & a total b*tch til we gave up to get her off our backs. We were living at home then so it was hard.
She also wanted to terminate DD1, but we were out of home then so I stayed away from her.
It wasn't the best reaction. She's over it now. Sorry to share a horror story, but hopefully your mum is Ok Princess.
Ask every question you need to. Make sure you do. It's not easy, but it'll be easier if you know all you can.
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i had just moved out of home and was living with DP and was three hours away from family so i rung them, dad was like oh well this kinda **** happens in life and we have to take it, so he was quite good, mum was like you need to think of the rest of your life, and she suggested i get an abortion, billy's mum had him at 20 and said that we had to get an abortion, she wouldnt say that now! she loves maddie, and billys dad was over the moon. ok there is my little story lol.
i bet so many of us are glad that we didnt listen to our mums for the reason that we might not have our children today, although we will never let our kids know not to listen to us sometimes lol.
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Skye and Sally, I am so sorry you guys had to go through that.It must be very hard.I can't even imagine having to make that choice and the strength you both must have had.Skye, to be forced! That is horrible!
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i was ***** scared to tel my parents as i didnt know how they would react! so we bought a little key chain that said " I LOVE GRANDMA" & wrapped it & gave it to her then she gave us the whole lecture about everything but then she got over the inital shock she calmed down & we talked about it civilised!
Im sue after the inital shock they will be fine about it..it just takes awhile to get used to!
Good luck
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Honestly, it doesn't bother me as much as it used to. If I didn't terminate that pg I wouldn't have Jazmyne. I fell pg with her just 3 months later. So when would've been about 5 months pg.
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Skye :hug: I wasn't forced it was a decision I made, my ex(the father) raped me over the course of our relationship, i couldn't bring a child into the world with my mental state.
I have got more to say... will be back later
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Thats so horrible Sally.
That was kinda another thing that I think now its best the way it was. I was raped about a month before I fell pg the first time. DH & had been together for 6 months. It wasn't him, but looking back I know mentally I couldn't have done it. I was only 16 when it happened. I fell pg about a week before my 17th b'day.
I have 2 daughters now. I can't let them out of my sight. I'll probably be a nervouse wreck when they are teenagers.
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Skye and Sally, im so sorry, i have never had that happen to me but my sister has.
Skye- i feel the same as you about when my girls get bigger, i just hope they are like me and stay at home and do their homework or just have sleepovers with friends and resist the nightclubs and parties. I'm gonna be pulling my hair out, i can see it now.
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Morning Ladies,
I dread the thought of my son doing something like that, he will be taught how to treat women properly!!
As for having girls, i totally understand, although these days no-one is safe :( It's so sad, especially when it's children involved.
So anyway, I said i'd be back to talk a bit more, so here i am.. lol.. I am depressed, I went to see a dr yesterday but when i told DP, he flipped out thinking it was because of him, so i haven't been but will make an appointment for next week. I hate feeling the way i do and i dont want to. I'm happy with my life....
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I think that's all we can do....Try to teach our boy's to be respectful loving men.
No women should have to go through what you guys did.You have amazing strength for getting through it.:hug:
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Sally :hug: Having everything you want in life doesn't necessarily make you happy.I know first hand.Everything is perfect for me yet I still have PND.You really should go to the doc.Could you get DP to come along?maybe the doctor could help him understand a little better?
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oh Sally, i really hope you start to feel better soon, i had a bit of PND for a while and its just not fun, you have also had a long hard run with Brendan, even though he is doing so well now, it wasnt easy to start with so that is one major big thing and its ok to feel a down about things, if one thing isnt going right nothing feels like its going alright.
i think laura is right and maybe you should get DP to go to the doc with you to help him understand.
hope you feel better soon x
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Hey Ladies,
Sorry i havent posted lately in here, been busy at home plus on other websites.
Hello to all the new people and those who have just found out they are UTD "CONGRATULATIONS".
I'll try and remember to come back here more often, i miss how much we use to chat in here.
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hi every1... hows every1 today??
i totally agree teaching the next generation of young men how to treat a lady!
oliver has to be the sweetest gentlemen! the 1st bf to treat me properly
a tru english man with maners!
sorry ive got no experience in pnd- i hope u all r coping
sorry Change subject
i started swimming lessons with kavanna 2day.( i should of started last yr but was fat&preg didnt want to get into togs!) she had so much fun... all the mums r over 30 no 1 spoke to me :(
i had to leave harlen at creche- i had a teary moment but the lady said if he started to get upset they'd come get me.. but he was fine!
we got declined a house we applied for... we have never evr been declined! it myt have something to do with kavanna drawing all over the bill i had to fax to them.. it didnt look very professional!
p/walkee how u feeling hun?
i found out i was 11wks preg (one nyt stand)3days after my 16th bday @ this time was living wit my nan, i told my neighbour who was supose to be my bestie and she ratted on me told my nan, my nan told my mum my mum flew to qld to be with me... was in yr 10 living away from home ect ect ended in termination! so i didnt have to tell her, but was more nervous facing my nan!
but after becoming a mother i can see y my mum was worried for me,
good luck telling ur mum...
hugs 2 every 1 much love taegan
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thanks for that, still trying to figure out what to say
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Honey, I think your just better off getting it out there. She might surprise you & be really supportive. Your mum can be your best friend through pg & baby.
Not all are so great, but there are quite a few that are.
If you put it off she might be hurt that you couldn't come to her with one of the biggest issues in your life.
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Hey girls,
Ive missed out on soo much, and i dont have time to do personals, but ill be back :)
Just saying HI for now :)
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BrendansMum- Sorry to hear your feeling depressed, cant say i have had PND but i do get those days here and there where one thing goes wrong and i feel like everything is wrong, i hope you feel better soon and think you should def see a doc, the longer it goes untreated (IYKWIM) the worse it could get.
Taegan- Yay on swim lessons, lys doesnt need me in the pool anymore but when she did and even now no-body talked to me cause i was the 20yr old who looked like a 16yr old with a kid. Snobby ppl. I dont like snobs anyways, but just do you dont feel alone i know what ya mean.
Hello to everyone else, my back is very sore so i dont wanna stay online too long, gotta lay down and rest, hope everyone has a good and happy weekend, even though its forecast to rain in melb :(
Take Care
xxxxxx KiRRa xxxxx
