Younger Couples Chat ~ July 2008

Sally (AKA Brendansmum) - I'm going through PND for the third time. Aint it lovely.
You've done an amazing job & are still hard at it! Don't forget it! I say that to every one else, but when someone says it to me I'm like 'yeah, but...I could've done this better', or 'I didn't do that'. Its all really part of being a mum. You've got no idea what you are doing til your doing it.
We all stuff up, we all make mistakes, but we are all doing the best we can for our babies & thats what counts.
It won't make your PND go away, but I hope it makes you feel better.
Go read some of my threads about my oldest. I'm having problems with her & I've lost it & done things I shouldn't have & said things I shouldn't have, but I don't know how to do this!
It is the hardest thing in the world to do. The physical things are nothing to the emotional side of things.
Having my 6 year old tell me I'm a bad mum & that she hates me cuts me up. She's told me she wants to die. It's hard, but I'm taking it one day at a time & doing the best I can.
Thats all we can ever do.

I really hope you feel better soon. If you are worried talk to your gp or your MCHN. They can help.

BTW - Sorry if I sound all motherly! I've had a few drinks tonight & I hope that came across the way I meant it! (I turn into that type after a few)

just thought i would pop in and say hi!! great big hugs to all xoxoox

Thanks girls :) just want to clear up though, I dont have PND but Chemical Depression... i'm actually supposed to be taking anti's all the time and probably for the rest of my life.

Butterfly Princess Hello!!!!

Hollye, how are ya goin??

Taegan, woohoo for swimming lessons, sorry no one spoke to you though... that sucks :(

Gotta go make breakky now

ok just a quick question is it normal to already be feeling food cravings and have a sick feelig to foods i have previously eaten

how far along are you? You can experience morning sickness and food cravings anywhere from 6weeks.... each pregnancy is different! You should make yourself a ticker :D Lilypie : Free Baby stuff or Home - Bump and Beyond and bellybelly do ones too :D

i think im between 5 and 6 but could be more and i dont want to make one till i know

My ms started around 5 - 6 weeks.
Food cravings were a bit further along, but foor aversions, same time as ms.
With my girls the smells & foods I couldn't stand were
Smoke/ashtray
Bread
Tap water
Toilet cleaner (probably more coz I spent so much time with my head down there smelling it!)
Lasange (I normally LOVE it)
Coke (serious heart burn from it with DD1)

Skye, lol, a few drinks! I think you deserve them!:hug:

Taegan, I can't wait to take Sam to swimming lessons.It must have been so cute to watch.And to back you up, Oliver seemed lovely when we met yesterday, he was fantastic with all the babies.He made Sam smile a few times.

On the topic of m/c and cravings, I never got m/s but my cravings started pretty much instantly.I would drink 2 liters of Apple Juice a day!

Oh and on the smells that turned me off...I have a weird one! I couldn't eat of glass plates! I swear I could smell them!yep, I am weird.

Laurab- that is weird.. glasss plates??? lol

My m/s started at 6 weeks, thankfully i only had nausea and i didnt actually throw up but sometimes i swear i would have felt better if i did.
As for food aversions- mine was cream or anything creamy and i still cant go near it, although sour cream is ok. I also couldnt stand sweets and i craved savoury stuff, especially sausage rolls and meat pies, i dont think i have ever eaten so many... lol.
Now im good though, i dont really have any cravings as such but i do get really really thirsty (luckily for DP i havent started munching on ice chips again. lol) i just drink heaps, i crave water and refreshing drinks like cold juice and i swear i couldnt drink them outa the bottle thats how thirsty i am..... doc says it's also a sign of low iron, which i have.

I absolutely LOVED slushy drinks. I used to have a red one from the same place every time I had enough money while pg with DD1. After a couple of weeks they laughed & said 'the babies gonna come out hypo!'
Oh well. Maybe thats what did it....It was worth it!
With DS I craved Macca's cheese burgers. I normally have a big mac or chicken burger or something, but for about 3 months I'd pull in every time I was in town just for a cheese burger.
Wasn't as keen on KFC as I normally am, but I ate it occasionally.
It took me about 4 years to eat lasange again after DD1.

Laura - Glass plates! & I thought my water one was wierd! I used to avoid having a shower for as long as possible. I was really sick though. I had hyperemesis gravidarum. Sever ms. I was put in hospital a few times on a drip.
It was only with the girls. I had just every day ms with DS.

Morning girls :)

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My m/s started at 6 weeks, thankfully i only had nausea and i didnt actually throw up but sometimes i swear i would have felt better if i did.

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I wish I could have just had the nausea... vomiting was bad, very very bad. My teeth felt like chalk, my throat was raw and started to bring up a small amount of blood. I thought the same that if i vomited with the nausea i'd feel better... so wrong! :lol:

Laura - ROFL... glass plates! :lol:

I worked in a bakery until 16 weeks (I couldn't work any more due to a major bleed) and I could not stand the smell of the yeast proving. YUCK
Water would make me vomit, so I drank lots and lots of red cordial and then one day it made me vomit... lol.

Whats everyone's plans for today?
I'm having a day at home.... DP has gone out to ride his motorbike.

I just staying home too.DS is still got a cough from when he was sick last week and DH is at work.These people from Peninsular health just called me and told me they are coming over at 11am(for the PND)not sure what they want to do?? commit me?? they only gave me an hours notice.I think they just want to check up because of moving to a new area etc.
I'll fill you in when I know!

Gross! I think that yeast smell would have made me throw up too!

Laura, good luck darl :hug: If I can't get into the dr this week (which I probably wont) then i have an appointment with the CHN anyway... so i'm hoping to be able to have a chat to a social worker or something.

I went shopping to get SIL some jewelery to says thanks for being my support person, a gold ring with a ruby in it. Then I went to MILs and had lunch there, then I came home & wa going to go to SILs but they were out so I went for a walk & I just got home and am about to crash on the couch.

Hope everone's having a good day

Sally, I'm glad to hear you are going to speak to her about how you're feeling.In case you didn't know,you can get rebates on psychologist appointments if you get a referral through your doctor.I end up paying under $20 for mine.

All was OK today.They have organised for me to go in for an appointment tomorrow just to work out what's going on with my medication(it's not really working and giving bad side effect)Hopefully something can be done.

hey girls,
bit late with hte morning sickness bit but mine started at 3.5 weeks, thats how i new i was pregnant i couldnt drink or eat anything until about midday and then i was fine after that, except couldnt eat tomatoes (still cant sometimes lol) and craved orange juice and i hate orange juice lol.

So good news for me!! i am getting my implanon taken out this week or next week sometime and we are going to start trying for #2!!!! im soooooooo excited!

Were moving tomorrow to dunsborough! also excited bout that! im looking forward to living in the country and having a decent sized house for a lot less rent. lol

Hope you are all well!

Amy xxx

Amy, good luck with the move, will you have the net down there? I hope so!!! Oooh good luck with the TTC I am on cycle #2 due to ovulate any day now :D

Laura, thank for letting me know :D

Sal, sounds like you had a good day

Well today was eventful... the power kept going out due to a stupid trip switch... then we had some strong wind bringing down some trees onto the power lines which left us without power for just over 5 hrs.... 1/2 the food in the fridge is crap... had to throw it out :( It so sucks, as if we can afford to do that!

Hope everyone had a good weekend :)

Sounds like ya'll had a ok weekend except for you Sally, i hate it when food goes off etc, damn trees, who plants them near power lines anyway.....:wall:
Well i went to my sisters yesterday, she had a kids clothes party thingo, got matching dresses for lys and charli, its gonna look so cute. hehe. She only had sizes 0, 1 & 2 but luckily alyssa fits into the 2 :D I also went to lombards and got some deco for the house on Sat, GO THE HAWKS... WOO HOO, im so stoked we are in the grandfinal.... can ya tell??? lol

Well im off to the AFL shop today, hopefully i'll be able to get a team photo or something for DP and i've gotta go get a toy net for alyssa's teddies which take up half her bed.

Good luck to Sally and Amy TTC #2, sending lots of baby making dust your way :dance:

Chat Later

xxxxxx KiRRa xxxxxxxxxx

Agree, Good luck TTC Sally and Amy!:pink-babydust: I hope it it a short and sweet road to pregnancy for both of you.

thanks guys, brendansmum, hope it happens soon for you, do you know how long after the implanon is taken out you can fall pregnant? like is it days? weeks? months? i hope its only days or weeks and not months lol.
i have done all the packing today so all i have to do is wait for the stuff to be loaded into the truck and the cleaners to come then i can go to hte new house, but cleaners arent coming till 12 so gonna be sooooo bored.
anyway, ill bbl.
Amy

Amy- You can fall preg straight away, i had mine taken out on Jan 6, hadn't had my period since start of dec so i was due for it, didnt get it til 27th Jan and i ovulated 17 days after that (normally you ovulate 14 days after) and we fell preg first try, so basically as soon as you get your period count 14 days from that day and you can start trying... or maybe a start trying at 10-11 days to be sure you dont miss it. I got the tests to confirm when i ovulated, its kinda like a preg test the ones i had, you just dip the lil stick in your pee and it tells your pos= yes your ovulating, neg= no your not.
Are you trying for a boy or girl??? or not bothered?

Good afternoon!

Amy, I'm not sure about the implanon, but i do believe it happens staright away. Good luck!!

Laura and Kirra, thanks :D

I would like to have a girl.. one of each.... but not fussed as long as they are healthy and hopefully born later than 30 weeks!!

Brendan had his appointment with the occupational therapist today, was interesting... he's coming along ok and starting to do some of the 18m old things, but not quite doing all the 9-12 months things...LOL On thursday he has an opthamologist visit (eye dr) thats done in perth at the childrens hospy, and then friday we have the child health nurse who is going to organise another appointment with the speech pathologist.

DP has gone back to work (yay! :lol: ) it was nice having him home, but nice to have him back at work too!!

Hope you all have a lovely week!

We went & saw DH's cousins twins yesterday.
They are identical twin girls born the same day I had Jesse at 32.5 weeks. So they are 6 months, but only 3.5 months corrected age.
They are doing so well. They were both around 1500 grams born & they are just as long as Jesse now. Not nearly as chubby, but not as small as I expected!
They are so cute. & she reckons they are easy! Easier than just one! (her DS just turned 2) I bet she won't be saying that when they are up & running around!

We are moving. We've decided to go back to the coast. Would like to be there before the start of next term, which is only 3 weeks away. If we don't have a house by then we will stay with my mum til we find one.
I'm so excited! I love it over there & miss all my friends. Hopefully we'll get organised in time. I don't wanna be moving in the christmas holidays.

Good luck ttc girls! No experience with implanon, but hopefully it'll be quick & easy!

Hey Ive been looking at this thread for a while a little nervous to post i guess. Im Rhiannon Im 18 and a single mum of my 3 month little wonderbub Aiden. Im in Cairns trying to sort stuff out with my XP and just interesting in meeting people with little people :D
Good luck to everyone who is TTC or UTD

Rhiannon, welcome!!! Hope you can sort things out with XP, do you hope to get back together? Or just sorting out visits ect... hope you dont mind me asking? I was seperated from my DP for about 4 months, when Brendan was about 8 months old... it's difficult and my hat goes off to all those single mums! Look forward to chatting

Skye, Good luck on finding a house and the move!! Glad to hear the twins are doing so well to!

Dp's just come home for lunch.... once he goes I have another load of washing to do then have to put some dishes away and mop the floor... i hope brendan stay asleep for a while, he's sick AGAIN! I'm so over it... I hope he doesn't get what's going around, DP's mum ended up with a chest infection and conjuctavitus :( And the flu.... I'm not sure how well brendan would handle a chest infection with his crappy lungs! I really hope it's nothing.

MWAH!!! not much to say...just passing around the love! :p

Sally- hope Brendan doesnt get sick, and i hope you do have a girl. They say to "do it" couple of days before you ovulated for a girl cause they are slower swimmers but last longer and get lots of calcium into ya. lol. Not sure if it works but thats the rumour and stuff i've read.

Amy- For a boy (i'm assuming thats what you wouldl like, 1 of each) they say eat red meat and do it just once on the day you ovulate.

Not sure if they work girls but i suppose its worth a try. lol

Skye- GL with the move

Rhiannon- Welcome, unfortunately im in VIC but if ya wanna chat on msn feel free to add me (the lil man in the top right corner of this post)

Hollye- Hope all is going well with your preg (your hardly ever on anymore)

I'm gonna go get ready for bed, soooo tired. lol.
Enjoy the rest of your nights girls

Im not quite sure if I want to get back together or leave it as is. We were only together 2 weeks before Aiden was concieved so weve never had that getting to know one another stage and everything has been for Aiden IYKWIM?? Just taking each day at a time I guess.

Ok. I'm going to tell you guys how I got my boy. What I did different. It might be TMI, so be careful! :p
I have always liked DTD better when I'm on top. After a few years I changed & the possy we were doing alot was doggy. Told ya TMI! Anyway as far as I know its the male sperm that are lazier (go figure!)

Also with the girls it didn't take too long to get UTD. With Jesse it was like 10 months of TTC so for a month we DTD every night.
Next month I got my BFP. My little man!

HTH...if you were game to read! Good luck!!
Either way just have fun practising!!!

:lol: Skye, that post made me laugh.Can't tell you how I got my boy...I didn't even know that I was ovulating that month.I'm pretty sure it was the good ol' missionary though...how boring!

i agree with skye about doggy, the deeper they ejaculate the better for a boy, i obvisouly didnt have any luck with it, both my girls were conceived missionary i think. lol.

Rhiannon- Alyssa was conceived the 2nd time we DTD, we were only together less than a week, but Trav is my Best friends brother so we had known (but hated) each other for 4-5 years before we got together. Good luck with your ex, and remember to do whats right for you.

Good morning :)

Hollye, how are ya chicky? Are you still having issues with the PE? How's your BP? Hope all is well :hug:

Rhiannon, All the best and I hope it works out to what you want :hug:

Kirra, yeah LOL I'd heard that about girls too...

Skye, LOL :lol: thats funny :)

I'm pretty sure brendan was conceived when we were out camping, the night before "king of the cross" a huge motor bike event in southern cross. There would have been at least 100 other people all camping in tents and swags.. we were in a swag next to 2 of DP's mates. His parents were in the back of the trailer which we were laying next to and his brother and GF were in the car :lol:

Well Brendan appears better this morning, so hoping it was a 24hr bug or something? I feel like crap, but thats from lack of sleep. Brendan woke around 1am and wouldn't settle, so he slept with us..... really must try and break that habbit it's no good for my sleep!

How is everyone else? Whats planned for the day??

Take Care

I think i might be having braxton hicks, i've been getting this pain in my lower back and upper stomach (above my belly button) on and off for the last hour and a half. I'm thinking i might make a trip to the doc if it keeps up, i feel a lil sick too and bubs wont stop moving. I've never had braxton hicks before (with lys) so im not sure what they feel like. This pain isnt for like 30 seconds at a time though, its more like 10 minutes at a time and it gets worse the more i move around.

If you can try having a warm bath, it helped for me

Hope its not labour just yet Kirra!
Is it actually painful or just a bit uncomfortable? BH should just feel like your belly going really tight & hard for a few seconds, then it'll relax again. You'll feel it in your whole belly instead of just your cervix iykwim.

That post was just lovely huh! It worked though! Well I got my boy, so I'm saying it worked.
I love the places you guys concieved! lovely!!
Nothing too exciting there for me.
We'd only had our first place together for about a week when we concieved Jaz though. Says alot huh!

Hope you & Brendan feel better soon Sally.

Hi ladies am I welcome here as I havent posted in a long time :redface:

Well i ended up going to the doc. He says everything looks good, tummy is soft, bubs head is down and her h/b is good but he's sending me for a scan at 3pm just to be sure there's no internal bleeding or anything.

They were like contractions but i could only feel them in the top of my tummy and my lower back (not like the ones i had with lys), went for 1.5hrs all up, he doesnt think they were braxton hicks but he has no other explanations for it hence the scan just to be safe.
I did have a warm/hot shower and it made it feel better but when i got out they came back again.
Will let ya'll know how my scan goes, i know i said i was over being preg but i dont want her to come out yet, my bags arent packed, her stuff isnt all washed and most importantly shes not baked enough.

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Hi ladies am I welcome here as I havent posted in a long time :redface:

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You're a nuftie Kass!!!:lol: