BAH, she doesn't sound like a very good counsellor to me, I totally get that they need to give you realistic expectations, but using IF, IF is almost a little patronising, I think it goes without saying there are no guarantees with AC

When we went back this year our FS was frank with us and said that 3 years on obviously our fertility would be declined (even further) and talked about expectations (we got pg first time) etc etc, and it would be more likely take a few cycles this time - however luckily once again we got pg from our stim cycle. Lucky - yes, we were prepared that we may have used up all our luck last time, but we went in with a positive attitude hopeful it would work....... Anyway, I guess my point is that you have to have a positive attitude it will work, otherwise, why bother. So it therefore stumps me why a counsellor would be quite the opposite.

Massive hugs to you Miss B, totally get your vent