IVF sceptic? Looking to hear from others with similar experiences.

[butterfly_warrior]

I get the feeling that your dissatisfaction with your treatment during IVF comes from your pre-conceived notions and expectations. The human body is much, much more complex than a motor vehicle and comparing it to one is something I find somewhat insulting. Perhaps it is because I have dealt with chronic illness for about ten years now and understand a little bit more about how the medical world works, it's certainly not a world of absolutes. I've had an arthritis condition for many years now, and still nobody can tell me what it is - they can tell me that it's there (so I know I'm not imagining it!), but not give a name to it. It can be similar for infertility. The reasons can be many and varied - some they have names for, some they don't have names for just yet. They can give a name to my reason for infertility, they can give a name to my husband's reason for infertility, but just like my arthritis, they can't give a name to the reason I keep miscarrying. They can only look at the symptoms and try to fix them.

As for the reason there is more IVF done here in Australia than there is in the US - I would honestly have to say that the price difference DOES come into it. With government subsidies here, IVF is something accessible by many. In the US, it's accessibly to only a few. Adoption processes in the US are also much simpler, straightforward and quicker than here in Australia, so for a lot of people there's a much more attractive alternative to IVF with a guaranteed baby at the end of it. Adoption in Australia is just not that accessible, nor quick, nor simple - be it local adoption or inter-country adoption.

I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience with your IVF doctors. But I can honestly say that they are NOT all like that. I will admit that you do often have to push for more tests or more treatment to figure things out, but from what I have observed, the IVF doctors are really only willing to do the same thing time after time with no changes if the patient is content to let them.

BW