Hi
I can see pros and cons both ways. The fact is, though, with all the appointments, testing and treatments, as well as the physical and emotional toll that it takes, it's pretty much impossible to keep it a secret for long. Maybe if you only need a couple of cycles, but otherwise you're going to have to tell work and probably family & friends *something*.

That said, I would only give general information and details only where absolutely necessary - ie, telling work when you need time off. When everybody knows you're cycling it's extra pressure and your loved ones can't help but ask about test results and the like.

I think it's good to have someone, one person who is close to you, that you can confide in. That you can talk freely about this stuff with and who can comfort you when things don't go well and who can celebrate with you when they do. Sometimes partners aren't quite the right person for that, because of what they are dealing with themselves with the treatment.

I do think blokes can be extra sensitive about their manliness when it comes to fertility. Pity it's us girls who have to do the hard stuff and put up with the presumption of infertility - it always seems like people assume there's something wrong with the woman.

All the best~~