Lisa, I'm sorry you have to go through this. Everyone has given you really good advice. Some people who know about us have been great and I'm glad we told them, unfortunately most have been a dissapointment. Most people don't know how to deal with infertility, it's one of those things you can't really understand unless you live it. This journey is so difficult emotionally and even you yourself may not know exactly what you need to hear or need someone to do for you on any particular day.

Go with your gut, if you feel the need to tell a particular person, and it feels right at the time, share it. Let your husband know that you might need to talk to someone other than him (and you will at some point - even if it's just us on here). You don't have to tell him exactly who you told or the details. You might even find that your husband tells someone before you do - my husband didn't want to tell anyone at first either but he soon told a few people he selected.

Just remember that sometimes people, for their own reasons, are not capable of saying the right things all the time, or being what you need at the time.

We have told people I regret telling now. What I have done with those people is the last time they asked about our treatment I said "please no offence but we don't want to discuss this part of our lives anymore, I appreciate you care but we don't feel comfortable talking about it". Their answer to us was "that's ok, but you can talk to us if you need to" - now it's not mentioned anymore between us and I feel better about that. We stopped sharing with these people as they were zero support after our miscarriage, we still love them but they dissapointed us and they are just not capable of being the support we need.

So even if you do tell someone and they turn out to be the wrong person you can take some control - be honest and tell them what they are saying doesn't help, or it's a private matter now - you'll tell them your good news when it happens.

Best of luck.