Hi Lisa,
When we started IVF, we told no one for a few reasons, firstly because initally it was due to poor sperm that we needed IVF and DH did not want people to know why we needed IVF, and then becuase there were other things going on that made us feel that it was not the right thing to do. After a little while I needed support, and told a close friend who was sworn not to tell anyone. After 6 months of treatment we told our siblings - and then DH's parents as we needed them to look after our dog when we went to Melb for treatment. It took DH a while to get his head around the whole IVF journey and to accept that we needed a few close friends to know...in fact I dont think he was really comfortable about people knowing, and certainly not of openally talking about it, until we had our DS. Of the people we told, I was a bit disapointed with the support we got - I guess I expected more but maybe expected too much. We did not tell my Mum that our DS was IVF till I was 6mths pg, and did not tell Dad till our DH was 10wks old! Friends found out at various times along the way...

For me, the support that I wanted was for people to ask how we were not how our treatment was going - for me they were two different things, but many people only asked about the treatment or ignored the fact we were doing IVF and pretended everything was ok with us - when clearly it was not. If we do try a second time, I think we would again not tell people unless we had to eg if we needed someone to look after DS. I might tell a few close friends so that I could ring in tears if I needed to, but it is hard for people to truly understand what you are going through, or that is what I have found. Personaly, the IVF councellors were a great support, and one that DH did not mind me talking too.

Good luck
FG