Like the other girls have said, you need to talk to your DH about it and the importance of timing when trying to conceive. You need to take the pressure off it all, which I know is easier said than done.
If you dont need to do IVF, then I wouldnt suggest it. Assisted Conception is very emotionally and financially draining so would only go down that track if its absolutely necessary.
When my DP and I were trying naturally, he too was "tired" and felt VERY under pressure to "perform" when I told him to. Its very difficult for some men but I can tell you, trying to produce a sample for IVF is alot harder! My poor DP took HOURS for our first cycle and had to use viagra in the end. I felt so sorry for him!
Reggie, I think it might be better to work on the relationship right now, there are things that need to be sorted out before a baby comes along.
I know where you are, I was there years ago. I realized that my relationship just would not survive the trials of IVF in the state it was in. If you feel like you are doing all the work now, imagine how hard it would be to do all those appts, drugs and invasive procedures without a supportive DH by your side.
You don't want to go through IVF because there is no sex in the relationship - PLEASE work on why there is no sex in the first place - granted TTC is hard, aside from that.
there is good advice here, and I would like to add also, that IVF is such a draining process, you really dont want to go there if you can avoid it. Our sex life isn't great right now either, and this whole LTTTC process and our losses are part of the reason, but we are trying hard to rebuild that part of our relationship. You need to really talk it all through with your DH. Good luck and all the best to you
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