venting.. first cycle and need hugs already!

[kass]

Hi Saraz - just to follow on from what Milly's Mummy was saying about fertilisation, I had 9 on my first collection, 5 fertilised, 1 transferred fresh, two made it to freezing and only one thawed. So all up I got two out of nine, and neither one took. My second time I only got 5 eggs, 4 were fertilised, but neither of the first two took so I'm down to two.

I've been told to expect about two thirds to fertilise and then two thirds of those to make it through to freezing stage, and then that a couple may not survive the thaw. After that your chances of a successful transfer depend on your age and the quality of your embryos. According to my fs my chances are about 45% with my age and quality, however I'm up to transfer 5! I guess you have to make the decision that sits best with you, and some people are certainly luckier than me, but I certainly don't want to go through the collection process any more than I have to! Has your fs given you an indication of how many eggs they're expecting from you? I understand that fertilising 20 is too much when you want to be able to give them all a chance, but I don't know how many people actually do get those numbers. Might be worth bringing it up again.

Nikki - welcome. I'm happy to talk if you have any q's and like oneday said, there are lots of other helpful and understanding women here!

Oneday - I'm sorry to hear things aren't going well I really hope you haven't lost it.