If you can cope with 3, then you can cope with 4 because you just *do*. For sure its a strain and you have to take a lot of things into consideration like finances and time etc, but don't live life with regrets. So long as kids are happy and know they are loved then that's truly all that matters. I know things are different to what they were like when we were kids and everything costs more, but it's all relative - back then it didn't cost as much to raise a family, but back then the average wage was a lot lower too. You will have a similar age gap to what we have - first 3 pretty close together and then the 4th one a bit further apart and honestly it's been brilliant for our family and when #4 came along life was a lot more settled than it was had we kept them all close. The past 18 months or so I have felt like I have really gotten my life back - the kids are easier to look after if we have to go out/away, they can manage most things by themselves now like running baths etc. Of course I'm busier now than i was when I had 3 under 3, but that will happen no matter how many kids you have and they get to a certain age and start to pursue their own interests etc.