oh, you poor thing - i am in a pretty similar situation so my heart goes out to you.

DD's "dad" and i broke up when she was 3. She is now 7 and my df has been with us pretty much ever since the breakup, and she calls him dad.

her "dad" has since had a little bubba and my dd loves her dearly - but she hates her step brother who is the same age as her - kicking, spitting.... sounds like a parrallel universe!

DD doesnt want to go there to sleep anymore because of this - she just wants to hang our with her dad for a day every no and again and for him to bring the baby. her "dad" hasnt seen or spoken to dd in four weeks. she doesnt even bother anymore. i think she has realised it hurts her too much to try - which really sux for a 7 year old.

all i can do is tell her that daddy does love her very much but its just hard for him to organise her, baby, step son - and re assure her that wwe al love her very much. its all i can do.

stay strong - your dd will need a big soft cuddle and spongy shoulder to cry on, unfortunately its all we can really do.