Hi

i just wanted to say how amazed I am at how your are trying to embrace your future DIL!! Not many MIL's would do all this, its wonderful.

She is blind if she doesn't embrace you back and will be losing a lot of wonderful moments for the future.

Definitely stay in contact with your granddaughter as she will appreciated and have a lot of respect and love for you as you 'bothered' to stay in contact even with all the BS. She will one day find out all these things as her curiosity will not let it go.

To me your son seems to think that his daughter only deserves half a family and that isnt fair, it is going to be on him if she asks him later on life why his family never wanted contact with her.

My fathers family never sought me out when my parents divorced (I was 3) and it always plays on my mind of what did I do wrong etc. They never even tried