Thank for that Arimeh! I'll see what I can find out. It's not something I think I would rely on.. but would be nice to use if I needed IYKWIM.

As for support.. My mum is hopless, alcoholic and gambling addict. My dad lives an hour away and works OS for 40weeks/year. My stepmum is a joke, will only look after kids once they are totally toilet trained and can feed themselves. Plus she's a clean freak, and when we are there, if I feed my kids, she literally hands me a chux and asks me to wipe up the mess AS they are eating, rather than waiting til the end of the meal (she says the vermon will appear b4 the end of the meal!).

My brother and SIL I love dearly and would love to live closed, but they are 50mins away. I'm trying to convince DH to move closer to them for the support.

My in-laws live within 10mins.. but they are all in their late 40's with teenage kids and all work FT, so not always available or able to help me out.

It's really hard for me to ask for help, but I called my MIL and paid for her flight to come over for 3 weeks 6/3 - 29/3 when the new bubs here to help out.

I've only just stopped FT work myself.. but I've kept the 19mo and 4yo in care on a monday. So that will be my day to just enjoy new bub.

Sorry for rambling.. thanks for listening