Don't apologise MG - it is tricky especially when there are undesirable behaviours that are present. I know I am thinking I will be depriving my girls of grandparents and feeling sad that they will miss out balanced with the need to make sure that the girls are safe and happy and not being convinced that the behaviours that are directed at me will not be directed at them ITMS. As it stands we only catch up with them for social outings, so coffee every fortnight for an hour or so. This is fine but DD is asking why Nanny picks up other grandkids from school and not her and why she doesn't get to go there to be looked after.
My step siblings are very demanding of their mums resources, time and money wise and dictate all terms of social engagements/presents etc. They really do not both to even behave with common courtesy ie don't RSVP to invitations or even respond at all and there are no consequences. Which is fine if that is how things are for all but this is not the case. I have taken to not talking about any of it as I am seen as being difficult or arguing ITMS.
I am struggling ATM as I have steps wedding to attend to which my kids have not been invited but others in the extended family have been. I really do not want to go but feel pressure to go and stand there accepting this bad behaviour. My Dad won't say anything and has even made the delightful statement that he will choose her over his kids. Mute point really as that has been very clear for a long time lol. Jumbled thoughts - I apologise but am struggling a bit with it.