Large families coping skills? I need help!

[~Lashes~]

he dosent have any one outside the home he could be copying or on tv? my 4yo has taken on his 15yo unkles attitude, witch involves yelling how he hates me when asked or told to do something, punching the walls, if told no, trying to sneak to get his way and hurting his younger brother, its gotten to the point were we only visit grandpa if he is not there, and yes i to yell at the boys, i hate doing it, but at the moment it is the only way i feel my eldest hears anything. i just hope we get him out of it befor new bub arrives, or i get to stressed to manage!
hope you find something that works, no cartoons worked here for a bit, but like everything else, he just stoped caring about it.

[squidipa]

May God bless you

[bubno.3]

Hey for dinner i at times split the times kids eat.... like my little one 28 mth old will eat either his veges or wheetbix (yes for dinner lol) at 5pm then he is changed and ready for bed by 6/7pm with a bottle.... Then with him out of the way the main dinner is cooking and dh gets home at 6sh so we dh me ds 16 and ds 10 eat at 8pm at the latest! then after dinner ds 10 helps clear the plates and then he brushes his teeth toilet then bed to read for 1/2 hr depending the time of course.

With you maybe at 4 pm your younger ones ds 12 ds 9 could help do the veges or make the table for dinner whilst you get your baby and ds1 fed and settled and put 6mth old in basinette or cot or wherever .. then you could tackle the ds5 with his bath/homework and maybe somehting to eat depending on how ratty he is lol and then by 6pm at least you have 3 including the baby organised fed and ready for bed . Sometimes the whole family eating at the table has to fly out the window when your doing it alone .... NOW it is about 6pm and stuff when your husband comes home (i say it that way as it seems he doesnt help anyway so...) you can actually have a glass of wine and continue with your dinner and hopefully by 7pm you dh and the two older kids will be fed ..... Does that sound like a plan that would be doable at your house?

[squidipa]

May God bless you

[bubno.3]

BUT you cant spread yourself so thin 24/7 you will go mad!

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[maz]

Why the hell ar eyou spending so much time on your DD with her homework??? Cant she do it herself so you can look after the younger children?
Your house need's a bloody routine woman...get up sort one out. Sorry to be so hard but some tough loving is what you need.

get the kids in on stuff. get outside and go for a walk, go to a park and let the kids kick a footy or something. try doing some positive stuff for yourself!

Put C in a carrier if he wants ot be held, you can still do stuff that way. Man Ive got 2 special need's kids and I still do stuff. You are letting the situation get you down...get up or im coming up to drag you up!!!

[~Lashes~]

Your house need's a bloody routine woman...get up sort one out. Sorry to be so hard but some tough loving is what you need.

You are letting the situation get you down...get up or im coming up to drag you up!!!

that exactly what df keeps telling me!!!! we need a routine, blah blah, would actualy be nice if he was consistant as well might help me stay up with the consistancey!

your 2 that share sound like my 2, if its a dietry problem and you have told the care lady, maby find somewere else to have him? if not is there higher up you could speak to, imagine if it were a severe alergy!

im just learning what keeps my mood up, so far its working, hope it keeps up, and you find your level to!

[squidipa]

May God bless you