Jesabell and Storm its the same here, my first 3 to my first #$@* head husband, i was 15 when i fell pg and we went on to have three children and 8 yrs before i finally gained the courage and strength to leave, been with my loving DH for 9 yrs in Dec and am amazed every day at how beautiful it is to be loved and adored, he is the best thing that ever happened to me and my kids! The older kids don't see their sperm donor, his decision not ours and his loss not ours!! We have our family here and they are all loved equally and as far as my Dh is concerned they are his kids but he just didn't provide the sperm to create them!!!