Feels kinda weird being the first. I just need a chat school hols four kids DH away for 12 hrs a day i get pretty straved for adult conversation. The morning hasnt been to bad its raining for the second day in a row not that rain isnt needed but the school hols isnt good timing. Theres so much that needs to be done around here im so tired my 4 month old is not keen these days to give me enough sleep, i can feel the sads kicking in not sure weather im just tired or that there is somthing going on ive had trouble with this sort of thing before well really since the first bubs. Can you guys tell me whats the norm with larger familes i come from one but my mother passed away a very long time ago i have no one to ask is it normal to where pjs till 4pm to let you self go eg weight hair face i dont have much intrest in sex these days either im just so tired i work on sat morns mainly to get out of the house ( how sad) i dont get time to excercise i guess that comes with the larger family things hey i dont have friends that have this many kids they all think im mad im not i love them all it just gets tough mil isnt much help these days the novelty wore off when bubs 3 started running around ( DD 1 previous relationship 12 ) seems that my kid are to much effort they come for a visit once a week i wait on them hand and foot then they leave great lot of help hey dont get me wrong in the past they have been great but now that there's more kids the help seems to be less. I hope im not blabbering too much i just dont get alot of convo through the day i dont seem to have the energy to want to go out either. Am i the norm
kath
Hey Kath
Sounds like you are in a bit of a rut, what ages are your children? I think esp when you are tired and not getting enough sleep it can be hard to get motivated. And on school hols even more so. Sounds like your DH isn't home much either which means you are not getting adult conversation, and that can make you a little stir crazy I reckon.
If you have had depression before you may recognise some of the symptoms. How about setting yourself a goal and writing it down and aiming for it. Say for example to start with something small, getting up and having a shower first thing and getting dressed. I know that the longer I am in PJs the less likely I am to feel like doing anything. If I get up and get showered and dressed I feel more awake and ready to start the day. You also need to recognise that your bub is only 4mths old and so probably still not fully settled, try not to worry too much about not being organised, babies are time consuming and hard work not to mention lots of fun. Make sure you enjoy your bub. Being a mum of a large family is tough, and although we wish we were supermum we are not, so try to not stress and maybe once school goes back you can get into a routine which makes you feel a little more in control. I know I feel crazy on school hols, house is trashed no matter how much cleaning I do. My kids are 12, 8, 4 and 2.
Hugs to you
Michelle
thanks you make alot of sense and these are things i know but i guess the lack of sleep is causing the drahma at least i hope so some days i just cant get happy. the kids are 12,4,3,& bubs its hard and for the most part its good great even i just didnt realise that there really wouldnt be any me not just a little its just really tiring but you know that
kath
Some of what you are saying sounds like me, somedays (especially school hols) I won't get a chance to get out of my pj's, I also have four boys 6,4,2 and 1 and it's a handful having to run around after them, but do try and get sometime for yourself. Hard as it is, even if you go for a relaxing bath when your DH gets home. My DH is a truck driver (only local) but he's usually gone by about 5am and not home til 6pm, so I know how hard it can be, struggling on your own everyday. Where about's in Brisbane do you live? Maybe once this rain has gone you can take the kids to the park and get some fresh air yourself. You'll also find once bubs is a bit older and in a better routine that you won't feel as tired.
Hi there KittyKat,
Life does has its moments in larger families. I have 5 kids under 7 and my oldest 14 is disabled so life stinks sometimes! I remember a few years ago when I had to buckle all 5 into seats and I had 4 in various stages of nappies and toilet training that it would never end. An older wiser lady who had 8 kids told me that today was the toughest day tomorrow it will be easier. I thought she was nuts!! But she was right, I now only have to buckle in 3 kids the others can do themselves and one day it will only be my disabled boy and I will miss doing the others! Today its raining here and the kids have mattresses in the lounge and we are eating popcorn and watching movies - so am I. Housework will wait but we only get one chance to get it right with our kids. I hope we get it right!
The closer they are together the more tiring it seems too, Bree you are right re the not having to buckle them....as hard as it is the day will come when they are all bigger and then we will wonder how it all went so fast. My house is actually silent atm, cos the simpsons is on pmsl...just 30 mins of peace lol
Bree you are so right before long they will be at school and wonder what to do with myself.I have great girls i love them to bits. After my last chat i called and made a app for a delux facial. I was given a gift voucher a few months ago and only last friday used it i enjoyed it so much i will now make a app everymonth to go back for a facial eye brow wax and tint if i put $10 away every week it should cover it i need to pull my head in and make time for me, and special time for DH and i it will be a effort but if im going to be a good mum i need to make the effort. Rain again tomorrow ladies love it i think i will duck down the video shop again later and get some cheap kiddies movies. Ella has vaccination at 9am and the eldest is going to movies with friends so ill be down to 3 kids not bad. Just thinking does anyone have any good reciepes to feed a tribe
kath
Hey there - putting aside time with my DH is something we do every Tuesday night. The kids go to bed early and we sometimes will organise a babysitter but usually not. Tyesdays are cheap dvd night so we get a dvd and some chocolate and blob together. It really makes a difference having that one simple evening put aside each week. I find it makes things easier if you have something to forward to.
I would also love some easy recipes for feeding my tribe - I am a lousy cook! I am not being modest either!
Somedays i feel exactly the same as you Kath.Things do get on top of me sometimes, but the next day I refuse to let it happen again.
What Michelle said about getting dressed first thing really does work wonders, if I hang out in my jammies all day I have no motivation, like today & yesterday & the day before that LOL.
I think I am in a rut too, but I am trying do dig my self out.But then again somedays I just couldn't be bothered anyway.
Having a big family can be tough, but you've got to keep yourself happy as well, you're just as important as your kids.
Feeding a tribe, lol.
2+ kgs chicken wings (cut off tips)
1-2 onions, sliced
1-2 carrots sliced
2pkts cream of chicken soup( more for more juice)
1-2 tsp curry powder.
flour salt & pepper
rice
Coat chicken in flour & s&p brown in frying pan.Remove when done , add oinion & carrot stir til cooked, add curry powder & stir.Cook rice
Mix up the cream of chook soup add to pan when boiling add chicken.simmer til rice is ready & chicken is cooked through.
My kids love this & it tastes even better when you can get 2 kg wings for $5.00
Last edited by storm; June 27th, 2007 at 10:45 PM.
: add recipe
Thanks girls for all your thoughts and well wishes, craig is out of hospital, but still needs lots of pain relief and he cant do alot, so i have another child atm.
i have finally got sucess at centrlink, i am now receiving a parenting payment, and we have applied for sickness for craig, ( which they didnt accept the first form i sent in) hopefully we will be receiving that in the next couple of weeks
kittykat i was a bit like u when my baby was born but it does get easier shes now 14 months and also i have 12 10 9 and all girls which sometimes makes it harder.but i think once you get organzied which is very hard to do im still getting there it makes u life a bit easier .my partner works in the mines so hes hardly ever here so thats makes it harder most of the time i feel like a single parent .anyway it nice to stay in your pjs especially with all these cold days lately.try to get out of the house whenever u can cause sometimes if u are at home all the time it can make things worse .
so good to hear crissy that DH is doing so much better.The chicken receipe sounds good i give it a go . Ive started get my self in to gear DH has been home sick yesterday and to day so its been nice to have him around but now he has just been told that there wont be work till Tuesday so i guess ill enjoy having him around till then it does help me heaps and we all enjoy having him around some for a few more days.
kath
well girls JUNE is certainly not the best month in this household, after craigs delemers (sp) he is out of hospital for 2 days, and our car was stolen from our drivway yestreday..........WHAT NEXT!!!....and it was only a old tarago, nothing to flash, but now we have no income as yet, no car, and craig still unwell.....my pram, car seat, cds, jessicas phone and all my swimming stuff was in the car.......it makes me so angry, that someone can do this when things were starting to look up, we have no insurance(as it was only a old car) just waiting for the last day of june (today) so i can totally forget about this disaster of a month!!
thats so wrong the bastards hopefully they just took it for a joyride and then they drop it off somewhere.if u need a carseat ive got one just sitting in my shed.ifs there anything u need or want me to do just let me know .hopefully july the best month fo you and your family.
chrissyn im so sorry for your bad luck i do hope the next month is a lot better for you and your family. i live too far away to be able to give you what you might need i hope things pick up for you.
kath
DD kahli 12 DD siaan 4 DD macayla 3 DD Ella months
Oh Chrissy what a bastard of a thing to happen to you so unfair. I so hope you get the car back and everything in it. How some people sleep at night is beyond me!!!
Larger Families Chatter ~ June 2007
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