N2L I'm 99% sure she doesn't want to come I just wish she would tell us that. If her mum said it I would believe it was her mums choice not hers, we would rather hear it from her so we know she's not being influenced. So true about the outside influences though and unfortunately her mother purposely arranges sleep overs etc when she is meant to be with us, it's the easiest way to convince her not to come.
The only reason she ended up coming this weekend is because her mum had plans and didn't want to pay for a babysitter.
Oh Faye, huge hugs hun I can sympathise as I've also had to deal with an ex from hell. Luckily the kids were a bit older, 13, 17 and 21 (the 21 year old didn't speak to us for 5 years, but that's another story!) and although they lived with their mum, and goodness knows what stuff she was telling them, we hardly had any problems as they had a much better relationship with their dad (still do) than their mum. Big hugs again, perhaps just go with the flow right now and make her feel loved and welcome anytime, I'm pretty sure she's saying those things to please her mum. Plus she's still so young hun, she'll learn to make up her own mind about things as she gets older.
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I can sympathise as I've also had to deal with an ex from hell. Luckily the kids were a bit older, 13, 17 and 21 (the 21 year old didn't speak to us for 5 years, but that's another story!) and although they lived with their mum, and goodness knows what stuff she was telling them, we hardly had any problems as they had a much better relationship with their dad (still do) than their mum. Big hugs again, perhaps just go with the flow right now and make her feel loved and welcome anytime, I'm pretty sure she's saying those things to please her mum. Plus she's still so young hun, she'll learn to make up her own mind about things as she gets older.
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