Hi Jo. From my experience, its not that much harder going from 3 to 4 than it is from 1 to 2 or 2 to 3 etc. In time you find your groove and before you know it, it's like you've always had 4 kids. What are the age gaps going to be? I have 20mths between my first three, and then 3yrs 3mths between 3 and 4. Its been great - I've handled it much better than I think I would have with a closer gap, but then if the gap was closer I would just have to get used to it kwim? Once you have kids in school it gets trickier though because you have to time feeds around getting the older child/ren off to school, but it's manageable - you have to make sure that you organise yourself well.

People often say I must be busy with 4, and yeah, I am to a certain extent, but then I was still busy with 3 kids and I find I am more busy with the older three than I am with my baby.

One thing that was really important to me was not having any regrets - I didn't want to not have a 4th baby and always regret not having him. They are little for such a short time in the big scheme of things and before you know it they are old enough to fend for themselves, so its only for a few years that you are really busy chasing after little kids and babies and then you have the rest of your life to sit back and enjoy them.

HTH